MRC32

I have been wondering about this lately, as I don't see as to how this could be possible, but apparentley it happens all the time in the church. Say two people are sealed in the temple for ever. One spouse has an affair and refuses to work things out with the other spouse and stays with the person he/she is having an affair with. After the divorce goes through the ex-spouse and the person that he/she was having an affair with decide to get married. Could they get sealed in the temple? I guess the problem I have understanding are, how could the ex-spouse and person he/she had an affair with truely repent for what they had done and become worthy to enter the temple together? If they were to truely repent of such a serious sin, they would have to have true sorrow for what they had done, which I don't feel could be done if they were still together.

Thanks for the comments and your sympothy. @Ryan, yes, marital counseling is in our plans, hopefully as soon as possible. I will check that website out when I get home tonight, thanks for that. @MissHalfWay: I know my bishop would "suprise" her. I don't feel the same way about him that she does. You are right that she needs to talk to our bishop or the sp, maybe I will still have her contact our old Bishop that she would rather talk to, as he will most likely still listen and advise, but then get my wife to talk to the correct person. The spirit is completely gone from my wife right now, but she does have a testimony deep down, and knows what she needs to do. In response to answers 2&3, I don't feel much sympothy for what she is going through either, but also don't want to push too hard, pushing her into the wrong decision. Inside, I am actually softening my stance as to how she ends it, as long as it is done. She has been honest with me in her feelings since confessing, and I believe that if we are getting back on the right path, talking to our church leaders, marriage counseling, being active in the church, daily prayers and scripture study, I believe that she will have no desire to continue the relationship and I wouldn't concern myself with it. If it happens again, I will have to end our relationship, and she knows it. The worst has already happened, and if it takes her to break it off with him in person, maybe that wouldn't be the biggest deal, as long as she meets him in a public place to do it, and says a prayer with me before she goes. Also, today is our three year anniversery. Should I even do anything about this? I am not talking about a present or anything, but maybe some flowers, with a note saying that I know we can get through this if we do this with the Lord's help or something like that?

Hello, My wife and I are facing the toughest issue we have ever faced, and I need to ask a few questions and for some advice. My wife's and my marriage has been struggling for approximately a year to a year and a half. Until about 3 months ago, we still got along great, but we had fallen off the straigth and narrow path about a year and a half ago. A few days ago, she confessed to me that she was having an affair. She has appologized for what she has done, and says she wants to try to work things out, but feels confused, and like she loves two people. I have not been totally innocent in this situation either, however, having fallen into pornography, and having strong temptations, especially lately to meet other women, although I have never actually had an affair, or actively sought one. I realize that why my wife is the one that had the affair, we are both to blame for allowing our marriage to get to this point, by not putting our marriage and the church as the top priorities in our lives. My in-laws were at the house during her confession and have been of upmost help for us so far. I have devoted 100% of my time these past few days, saying many prayers, reading scriptures and articles on the church website, fasting, and seeking advice. I have been told by Heavenly Father that I need to do everything I can to make this temple marriage work. However, I do have some questions. 1. She wants to confess to a bishop, but not our current bishop because she doesn't feel comfortable around him (and was one of the reasons for her not wanting to go to church). Is it ok to have her talk to the bishop from the other ward in our city? 2. She says she has feelings for me and this other guy and is confused about what to do. She said she has never had feelings for two people, although she wants to work things out. She has said that she will cut off 100% communication with this person, but hasn't informed him yet, even though she has not communicated with him since she confessed to me. She says she feels that she needs to do it in person, as she owes it to him and it will make it more final. Is this ok? I found and article on the web (non LDS) that suggested ending an affair by meeting in a public place, I want her to end it over the phone with me listening, but maybe that is not necessary. 3. How much time should I give her to contact the bishop / officially tell this person that she will no longer see him? I have felt the spirit very strongly these past few days, so strong that I can't deny what I have been told. I know that if we do things the right way, with the help of the lord, and make our marriage and the gospel the #1 priority in our lives, we can work this out, and come out of it with a stronger marriage. Any other advice that I have not specifically asked for is also much appreciated. Sincerely, MRC32