Hi britalena!
I am a hopeful "IM". My husband and I tired earlier this year but the Surro was not pregnant. Would be THRILLED to communicate with someone who understands the process.
I agree with you comments- I do not think people understand surrogacy or the position of the church in regard to surrogacy and sealings. I think traditional surrogacy is not encouraged because of the prolific issues that arose from Abraham using Hagart as a surrogate, then Sarah becoming pregnant. It is the argument that is as old as time- and very cloudy indeed.
Like you, and unlike Abraham and Hagar, we used our own eggs and sperm, so the anticipated child is genetically our's. As for sealings, I guess I don't care. Does it matter to who's covenant the child is born "under"? Our surro is an LDS friend who is sealed to her husband just as my husband and I are sealed. We are earthly parents, and hope to be eternal parents- but any child or children we have will be sealed to another in marriage. As long as everyone is eventually endowed, I don't think it matters which "seal" is key- the point is the child- like non-members- are sealed to an eternal family with Heavenly Father at the head. It seems like unrighteous dominion or just feels funny to assume a child has to be sealed to me-- as an earthly mother, my job would be to rasie the child to have their own testimony and make thier own path to eternal life- not to be the train in which the child hitches a ride to heaven.
We wrote a letter to the First presidency to ask for guidence as well- as it is strongly discouraged in the priesthood handbook. For us, the reply was encouraging and a beautiful witness. We are sad that we were not pregnant- our surrogate and her husband were also very sad as well and offered to go for it again. With all of these blessings, how can I be unhappy?
Anyway- the whole point is- CONGRATULATIONS!!!! You are going to be an earthly Mom!!! When are you due? Are you preparing to breast feed??
Love,
spunky
