I understand...it is hard for him. He gets into cycles and I end up cycling down with him. Thats one thing my counselor has been trying to work with me on. Not allowing his cycles hurt my progression in repentance. I want him to have a place to vent, I do, thats why he told a few of his friends so he could talk to them. We also have counseling every week with our couples counseling through the church and personal counseling so we both can work out our feelings. The only thing I can do for him is reassure him and just love him. I wouldn't of mind him being on here if I had known and it was me who was airing my own transgression and what really did happen and not a cycled version that doesn't say what really did happen.
Noche10--- I am sorry for you pain. I hope you know you that HF is there for you. He is there for everyone. I really cant say to much because I was the one who transgressed but I will say if your hubby is trully repenting he knows what he did wrong and is there because he loves you and wants things right. I am sure he wants his own salvation and relationship back with the lord to. It is so hard being on the other end of it. You feel like you can never repent for it. You feel like no matter what you do it will never ever help. Like I feel. You want to make the other person stop hurting but you dont know now. You watch there pain and hope they someday will see you in a different light. You yearn for that spirit back. Sadly it really wasn't about you. It was about him not feeling his own self-worth. I wish i could give you a hug and tell you that the lord loves you and he loves your hubby too. You will be a stronger women for this. Use this as a teaching tool together as a couple. Turn this tragedy around to do something good for others who are in similar situations or to teach the importance of self-worth and how to avoid the pitfalls. big hugs
