mkfreelancewriter

thank you

I agree that I definately need a therapist that does specialize. My current therapist is very weird all she says all the time is "that was then this is now" and "stats about abusers aren't always correct" which makes me not want to speak to her since she almost takes the side of the abuser and NOT the VICTIM me.

Thank you for being kind and advice. :)

Thank you for your kindness and help. I appreciate your time writing such a long post. You have made me think about a few things. Im sending you you a PM

He is court ordered anger management. We have been to some therapist sessions. The therapist isnt much of a help though. All she says is "that was then this is now" and dismisses everything. She even thinks that stats about domestic violence victims dying at the hands of their abusive husband is not accurate. When she told me all of these things it just made me want to go crawl in a hole and never speak out about the abuse that he was doing to me. I felt that I couldnt trust her or something so I left.

Quote "IF hes abusive then thats a different story. thats my humble opioin." Rose, You nailed it right on the spot. He is abusive and I had him arrested for it. Both of us come from dysfunctional family childhood. Right now, My husband and I are separated due to the abuse and a few other things.

I don't know where to start.. I guess I will start at the beginning... My husband and I have been married for nearly three years. I was weak when I married him. I gave up my dreams.. My dream has to always been sealed in the temple even if it meant to have a regular wedding outside of the church.. My husband is not mormon. He doesn't agree with the church. He once told me that he would join the church if it meant keeping me... I don't want him to join the church unless he wants to for HIMSELF and not because he wants to keep me.. We are in the middle of a divorce and I can't help but feel weird.. This is the part where I almost feel that I made a mistake in getting married. It says in my patriarchal blessing that I got from the Patriarch is the following: "Now there will come into your life at the proper time a priesthood holder, a son of your father in heaven who will seek your hand in marriage. I bless you to not expect perfection but to work toward that goal. He will take you to the temple and there be sealed for time and for all eternity. Children will be born to your family. I bless you to be a good wife and mother" I really do love my husband, but between things that have happened that were outright wrong and feeling cheated out of my dreams I almost feel like my marriage was a mistake since he isnt a mormon. I don't know if I am crazy for wanting to follow my patriarchal blessing the best as possible or what. I want to find a man that knows how to treat a woman right and that hhas the same goals in life as me. I just feel lost.. Do you have any advice? I really want to go to the temple to get sealed, but a part of me feels that it will be a mistake if I go with my current husband that im getting divorced from. Thank you for your time.

I'm in a family ward. How do I make friends at church? I'm kinda shy. People sometimes think I'm rude, but I'm just shy. They often get the wrong impression. I only talk in keywords when spoken to cuz of getting very nervous. :)

Hi Everyone, I just wanted to say hello. I hope to educate myself further. Im a member of the church, but I am not very active. I am currently in the process of going back. You seem like nice people. Have a great day!