kimiko
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Is there a reason they can't? My wife is required to keep her hair up (can't touch collar) for work and has long hair.
Yes, some woman just physically can't grow their hair past their shoulders. I am now one of them. My hair looks horrible when I try to grow it long. So I keep it short, but feminine. My husband loves it, and I frequently get compliments on it from other people as well.
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What about a reality show on regular Mormons? I bet the executives at Jell-O would jump then giggle at the chance to sponsor it.
There was one last year called Family Armor, but it didn't make it past the pilot. I guess we are not interesting enough.
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Oh noes! I love me a bean baja chalupa. This is sad news, indeed.
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I actually just got a call from my ward secretary a few minutes ago asking me to give the closing prayer on Sunday. I'm terrified to speak in public, but I said yes anyway because I need to overcome this.
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Have women's shapes been updated since the 50s?
Probably.
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So basically, the women's garments haven't been updated since the 50s. This certainly does explain a lot!
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Greetings!
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I'm in the same situation as you. I'm the only LDS member in my family, and I've often felt very sad over the fact that they strongly refuse to even consider this Church. It breaks my heart to know that we probably won't be sealed in this life (although it's not impossible). However, I recommend that you pray about this, and I'm sure that you will receive the same comfort that I did... the Lord will take care of everything in the end. Continue with your personal progression. Go to the temple and receive those wonderful blessings. Don't let your family's hang ups keep you from strengthening your relationship with Heavenly Father.
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LOLOLOL! That was a good one............ Or were you being serious?
I'll never tell!
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Wow, I can't believe my comment led to this thread...
Just listen to NPR, and you won't have to worry about a biases issue.
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With respect, I think you are expecting too much of them. Being an Elder's Quorum President doesn't mean he can answer you right then and there. And people have lives and jobs outside of church callings and attendance.
This is hardly a reason for leaving the church.
I don't think expecting that he fulfill his duties as a home teacher is too much. I was never expecting him to answer me on the spot. But at least one visit in over a year would have been nice...
Also I didn't say it was a reason for leaving the church. My point was that new comers often feel left out and lost after their baptism, and visiting/home teachers can help with that.
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I mean if you see someone at Church, rather than telling them you'll call to make an appointment -- just make the appointment while you are standing there.
Exactly! He would always come up with an excuse not to: wife has his calendar, not sure when he can do it, etc. And this guy was the Elders Quorum President too!
I think a lot of long-term members don't truly understand how much us new people need them for guidance and support.
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Honestly, I think the best way to "diet" is to not "diet" at all. If you really want to lose the extra pounds, get into shape, etc., then your best bet is to make lifestyle changes.
I constantly hear about people who went on "such and such" diet, and lost a ton of weight. As soon as they reached their goals, they went right back to eating the crap they were before and gained all, if not more, of the weight back.
Lifestyle changes are the answer. Make commitments to gradually improve yourself. Don't try to change everything at once. Start small, and let a new lifestyle change become a habit. It isn't going to happen over night, so be patient.
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Women are shaped differently from men. Heck, most women are shaped differently from each other. There are so many different compound curves, diameters, and angles that I get dizzy just thinking about it. This is why there are companies that make huge sums making custom-fitted jeans for women while most men get theirs off the rack in standardized sizes-- there just aren't as many variations in body shape and size among us menfolk.
Ok fair enough. You have a valid point. I understand it MAY be more difficult to make uniform women's garments. However, they could AT LEAST HEM the garments!!!!
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I really wish they would make women's garments without an elastic lace band, other than the DriSilque fabric.
Agreed! Who the heck designed the women's garments? Elastic band around womanly thighs just isn't going to work.
I finally found tops in the right size that don't have the lace, but the sleeve openings are massive! I feel like I'm preparing to take flight with my dumbo sleeves.
And why is it that the bottom of the women's tops are not even hemmed like the men's tops are? There's just a fine little stitching that easy rolls up and gets frayed.
Men have it easy. The garments are just like regular t-shirts and boxers. It seems like the women's ones are cheaply made and poorly put together. I've wasted a lot of money trying to find garments that actually fit.
Okay, I'm done ranting now. Sorry.
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Please talk to your Bishop or Relief Society President about this. You need to be assigned Home Teachers that actually do their duty, you also need to be given the new member lessons, even if you've been in the Church a year.
Do you know who your home teachers and visiting teachers are? do you see them at Church? if so, go up to them and introduce yourself and ask them when they are available to come over and home teach. -- I know it shouldn't be up to you, but I've found occasionally that this is what it takes.
I've already done this, on numerous occasions. The visiting teaching situation finally got taken care of, but still no home teachers. On Sundays, our home teacher would come up to us after Sacrament and tell us that he would be calling us to set up an appointment that week, but we would never hear from him. He just recently moved to another state, and I haven't been told yet who is taking his place.
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I understand that looking at one's spouse wearing the garment reminds us of the promise of being together. We have a great appreciation for the garment and seeing our spouse in it because we understand the covenant and blessing that the garment represents.
But can you honestly say that you find your spouse sexy when they are wearing just the garment? I'm speaking from a purely physical standpoint.
Absolutely yes. Attitude is everything. Plus you can always spice things up every once in awhile.
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For those who feel left out after baptism, did you join the Relief Society or other activities? It seems there are so many things to do that even without a home visit (personally, I think I can do without that), there are ways to be active in the Church and the activity would help you feel more connected. I could be wrong.
Thanks for the considered responses.
I go to Relief Society and participate in other activities. I've also volunteered, but I never get asked to serve. The problem with RS, at least in my ward, is that it has formed lots of little cliques, and none of them are really accepting new people. As a working woman, it's also hard for me to relate to a bunch of women talking about their kids, and they play "pass the new baby" during meetings. None of that really interests me. Generally the RS lessons are on the history of the church, so I go to meetings mostly for that.
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When I first started wearing garments, I was worried that my husband wouldn't find me as sexually appealing. However, the first time he saw me in them he said, "When I see you in your garments, I see my eternal companion." I've never felt unattractive in them since!
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Kimiko:
You're not alone in this. I have a family of people who are good friends of mine. They just received their first home teachers they've had since before I was baptized.
I was baptized 8 years ago.
It's tough, Kimiko: I'll admit that. You feel like you're lost, or alone, or forgotten. You aren't.
The first year after you're baptized, things get tough. Don't give up on it. There are people who care and people who love you, even if it's difficult at times. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you face difficulties; Everybody needs a hand sometimes, even the most spiritually strong-appearing member in your ward.
I've been through it. :) I know what you're going through and you're certainly right that it gets difficult, but you don't have to do it alone.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. You're right. It is hard not to get absorbed into feeling lost and lonely, but I cling to the Scriptures. Whenever I'm feeling discouraged, I turn to the Lord in prayer, and I'm always comforted with the knowledge that I'm in the right place.
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As a recent convert, I've felt and observed that a lot of new members are left hanging once baptism and confirmation have been completed. You go from constant contact with at least the missionaries to basically nothing. It's like, "Yay! You're baptized; it's such a blessing," and that's it... At least that is how it was for me.
Apparently there are "new member lessons" that are suppose to help people make the transition into LDS, but I never received those. I've been a member for a year now, and I still haven't received a visit from my home teacher. It wasn't until 7 months after I joined the church that I finally learned what visiting teaching was, and the teacher who was assigned to me never called or visited. She would just copy the message out of Ensign and send it to me in the mail.
I'm not sure if other new members in our ward are experiencing the same situations, but I have noticed that within a month or two of someone's baptism, I stop seeing them at Sacrament meetings.
There have been several times I've considered leaving the church because of problems like these. I don't really feel like I fit in and that everyone has forgotten about me since I joined the church. But the truthfulness of the church keeps me a member. I remind myself that people aren't perfect, and while the people of the church may have overlooked me since my baptism, the Lord hasn't forgotten about me, and I still have a purpose here.
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Dahlia, you should go and see the temple sometime. They have a visitor's center there, where you can enter in and have many questions regarding the temple answered. You'll also be able to walk the grounds and see the beauty and feel the peace of that wonderful place.
I definitely recommend this. It wasn't until I visited a temple that I received my answer about the truthfulness of this church, after months of praying and studying. The temple I went to didn't have a visitors center, but just being on the temple grounds was enough for me.
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We will all watch from the congregation as you fall asleep during Sacrament meeting.
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Boy you've got it tough don't you... your partner is your dad.
Ha! I got that beat. My visiting teacher is my mother-in-law. lol.
Luckily, I like her.
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Go talk to your bishop!!! Yes, it's going to be difficult, but the fact that you WANT to talk to him shows you already know why it's important. Just get it over with and move forward with the repentance process and your life. You'll be so thankful that you did.