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I have recently met with my bishop in regards to my sealing cancellation request. He has paperwork to complete and must send a letter off to my ex to gather his input. I am writing a letter. Parts are easy, like my repentance process and my plans to be sealed to someone else. However, the details of why the marriage ended are very painful to discuss. The only guidance I got from my bishop is to follow the spirit when writing. My question is how much do I include without this sounding like sour grapes? I have no more hostility and dealt with those issues long ago. Do I need to be detailed, and if so, how detailed?

I am married because I prayerfully and wisely chose someone with a similar familial background and who is deeply committed to being selfless and making me happy. In turn that makes me want to act selflessly and do things that will make his life easier. I am divorced because I didn't pray about the match and ignored the counsel of those close to me. I ignored blatant warning signs, which, over time, became habits that caused pain to myself and my children.

I was divorced a few years ago, after spending years praying for what would "fix" the issues in my marriage. The only answer I got over and over was "something big". Over years I found myself constantly put in a position to forgive the "missteps" of exposing himself to a teen girl, drinking, pornography, and eventually an emotional affair with a stripper. In order to keep my marriage together I began to go to bars with my husband and to cope with what was going on, began drinking with him. Over time, drinking led to some abuse, and once toward our oldest when she tried to help me. Divorce was the only answer, as he believes the problem lies with me. Since that time, I have counseled with my bishop, repented, and have remarried an amazing man. He came into my life not long after my divorce and after being married for over a year, he has gone through the temple. :) (Yes, he is a convert.) In the near future, I would like to be sealed to him, but will first need to pursue a sealing cancellation. My ex has already warned me that he will "never grant it" and will tell my bishop that our divorce is the result of adultry on my part (It's not). I know there is a letter that I will need to write, and I now see the wisdom in waiting at least a year, as I was pretty bitter until about a year ago. I do not look forward to this process because the last 5 years of my previous marriage are very painful to even think about, especially after conpleting the repentance process. My question is what goes into this process? If he is no longer active, etc. how much stock is put into what he says? Does he have to "grant" the cancellation?

Good Afternoon, I'm glad to connect with fellow LDS, and look forward to interacting with you. I currently am a part of a blended family, and although we have our share of challenges, I am extremely blessed.