annonymous

We watched it together! and it helped a lot I think... Too bad I can't do the love dare without her knowing exactly what I'm doing.

thanks for the frankness and advice. I appreciate the help and honesty. It helps

good point about running over with righteousness... even though I want and need to change, it's ME who needs to do the work on myself.

Thank you mormon music. I started this post with describing the whole situation in detail and even confessed transgressions... Another poster advised that it was too much dirty laundry so I erased it all and left this instead. I was desperate and looking of help. Things are becoming better ans she says it's up to me (if the relationship lasts). I just need to be diligent and proof myself without forgetting the hurt i caused and remember to not be selfish and to communicate more.

Yes I have learned that I need to completely open with her so that we can resolve this and have been. But sometimes not right away- causing the problem. I have been seeking counseling and talking to the bishop. Now I need to do it on my own because she doesn't want to deal with me any more. I truly want to involve her in my efforts, and didn't do that well enough before I'm learning. I want to find a way to have her want to be involved i the process again. Thank you for your help.

Advice on helping a wife who want's nothing to do with you to open up enough to start the forgiveness of trust issues again?