Hi there,
I am need of some help regarding a similar type of question as this one. I have recently applied for a cancellation of my sealing to my ex wife. I am married for the second time to a recent convert and we have quite a few questions regarding eternal marriage as we understand it. Even though my bishop assured me that I could get it cancelled,m I have now been told that men can't get a sealing cancelled, that we can be sealed to multiple women and that we just get a clearance. I am not asking this because we are yet desperate to get sealed to each other, its more about being free from my first sealing. I will not bore you all with the details, I just need to get answers. I want to know that I am not bound to a life (Eternal Marriage) with my ex wife, that the civil divorce is enough to free me from her and that I wont be bound to her. My Stake president, Bishop and Temple president have all assured me that I wont be, yet I cannot find any written evidence on this subject. My Wife now whom i love and adore is a very inquisative and evidence based person, it took her a good 8 months to join hte church (which she did before we even met) because she wants to know what she is getting herself into and I am also like this. I married my first wife in the temple because I was told and taught that marriage is eternal, I didn't really understand what I was getting into, and truth betold my ex wife and I didn't really know each other well enough (It is hard to know someone if you don't live with them first, in my opinion). I have been assured by my leaders, yet know one can show me anything in writing. I have researched the sealing and all the prophets of old talk about sealing as eternal marriage, that the sealing ceremony is infact an eternal marriage ceremony. No where does it say that I can find or anyone show me that a sealing clearance frees me from my first one. I couldnot imagine living an eternal life with a women whom I have chosen not to be married to in this life, yet as I understand eternal marriage and the sealing is all intertwined I will have to be with her in the next, it doesn't ring true. Surely the brethren have addressed this. I do believe in the sealing ordinance is very important and sacred, I am civilally divorced, I just want to see that I am not going to be bound to her, and unfortunately when people say that God will sought it all out? What happens if the soughting out is that I ma bound to someone because of a decision I made when I was young was the wrong decision. It is called the plan of happiness, surely i will not be bound to a life of misery. This is how my wife and I see it and no body has been able to show us any different. I understand that if my ex choses to marry someone different in the temple she can ask for a cancellation and that will free me from her, but the truth is I can't ever see her marrying again because of the person she is and the reputation she has, she is not active and doesn't really believe in the church anymore. I just need reassurance for me and my wife that we will not be bound to someone because of the sealing that took place years ago.
