Apocolyptus

Anyway, thank you for the replies, I'll keep looking around and continue searching the answers our Father would have me look for... since only He knows for sure.

Knew I was forgetting something. I'm 24, she's 25. My dating experience is limited. 1 Long distance (for over a year), 1 week long thing, and this girl since November.

Dreamer, what you say is true. We talked about it... but she has stated at one time "If you go, I will not wait for you." She loves me, has fallen in love with me, desires that I do not go to BYU-I, stay here in AZ, and marry her. I love her, I have not fallen in love with her, I desire to go to BYU-I, leaving AZ, and I'm not ready for anything related to marriage (maybe up to even a year). But how to .. put it in such a way to her that it won't hurt her. I hurt her once, albeit because I couldn't find the correct words, and it came out all wrong and we both suffered because of a loss of understanding... but I don't want to hurt her again. Any more thoughts, please...

We've begun to seriously think about marriage, and if it were something that we would do. Let me set up what is going on for a better understanding of our relationship. I've gotten to know her family extremely well, but she knows almost nil about my own (extended and immediate). That is in great part because I am scared to show people my family (they tend to bite your heads off sometimes). When we started to date, we saw each other every single day. Often on average of 6 hours, per day. She was recently promoted to a new branch 45 minutes away, so the time we spend together is lessened. We had a bumpy road, crashed a few times on the emotional highway, and overall this relationship has been a wonderful treasure from Father. However. The main question is at hand. She fell in love with me, and I don't necessarily feel the same way. (We promised each other that we wouldn't fall in love because I was leaving to BYU-I in April 2011) (We met in November 2010). She fell in love, she broke her promise- fine, that's okay. I'm not worried about it, people fall in love. It comes. But I've not fallen in love. Her family, friends, and herself have stated in texts and in voice for me NOT to go to BYU-I. To stay home and attend the local universities and to eventually marry her. (On a side attached note, I don't feel that 2 months of dating is enough time for me [personally] to know someone well, to marry. 4 months? maybe. At least 6-8 months, to really know someone... but I don't have that kind of time). I have been accepted as a student for BYU-I in the spring of 2011. I've been preparing for this for 9 months. It's something I want to do (and the additions of having the support of my sister and cousin who are coming up with me). Do I go to BYU-I and get a full education to serve a future family and provide... or Do I stay, forgoing BYU-I, my sister and cousin, the full education there, and go to a local university (!maybe!) getting married to my Girlfriend? Please let me know your ideas, advice, knowledge, experience, help, emotions, gospel spirit related good things... anything helps. Apoc