Hi, this is something I am pretty curious about. I'm going to be baptized in a couple of weeks and at the same time my husband is in Afghanistan and I've known for awhile that the marriage won't work. He can be very emotionally abusive and nearly hit me in the face just 2 months after marriage. At the time I was too ashamed to admit I made a mistake so I kept that secret from friends and family for over a year.
He has mental issues from going to Iraq and I've tried to get him for years to seek counseling either by himself or with me, and he refuses. But since he has been gone, I have sought counseling for myself and done a lot of things to improve myself and it's made a world of difference in my self esteem.
I recently got my driver's license at age 20 since my husband prevented me from learning for nearly 2 years. He kept me from seeing my mother until she died 4 months after we got married. I knew he was controlling and no good but I stayed partly because I was scared and afraid and loved him despite his many faults. I always backed down for the sake of peace. I constantly had to apologize to friends and family for his rudeness, etc.
Now when he returns it seems we very well may get a divorce. I'm sure it would probably be for the best.
Point is... now I am converting, I wonder if I will be judged in any way for being divorced? A member in Utah told me that a lot of LDS men may not want to date me because I may be seen as "damaged goods" in a way. Does this hold any truth? If I do end up divorced, I would love to find a nice Godly man who loves and respects me like I deserve.
Thanks for reading
