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K, I have no idea what "op" is, but know it refers to me. Wingnut, I think you are right in that I am not quite ready. I need to develop what someone mentioned before and that is developing my spirituality. But, I don't believe in the "Happily Ever After". It may sound pessimistic but, everyone has their bag of crap and personal challenges that become inherent when you marry. I was married for 7 years to the wrong person and it's extremely difficult. The hardest part for me was the dissection of my internal thought processes, values, tolerance for compromise, and understanding (at least trying) us both. It didn't work out but we learned a lot. When the guy I dated prays, he asks if he should date me. I don't know if that's the right question but he feels that we should not. I thank you all for your support and advice, it is so helpful. Timing keeps coming up for me in all kinds of places.. patience is not my strong suit. Thank you all again.

thank you so much, that was helpful. I actually teared up a little. What in the world?! Thanks again :)

When I asked why, he said he didn't know why. That I have been in or the subject of his prayers every night since the first break up a year ago. That seems to be more of an answer to me, but I could be entirely misinterpreting that. He just doesn't know. It's hard not to feel like it's a reason he's using because he is afraid of ANY commitment. Obviously, he has some things to work out, and maybe I can't be around while he does that. I don't know. Maybe it will never be. But I will always wonder why my promptings have been so different. In fact I prayed and studied last night. My dream was about him and, like, a future snapshot of one of those running hugs. A lot of my messages coming from all directions are of patience, timing, surrendering control, and will to God as he knows best. I have faith in that. I just won't keep my hopes up with this guy. I can't sit and stew, it just breaks my heart.

I dated a man for 4 months. It was perfect and I felt all the feelings that I never thought existed. I've been married and dated a lot so this isn't altogether new territory. However, out of the blue he broke it off saying that, "It's not right" Fast forward. We run in to each other and things pick up again. This time it's much closer and more intense. Meanwhile I have the small revelations that are simple and quiet and indicate that I am where I am meant to be, in his arms. Then I push a DTR and he says again that he feels like we should not be dating. It doesn't make sense. I felt a different reveal than he did. Maybe it's because I don't hold the priesthood, but it doesn't feel right to end it. That aside from my heartbreak. Any ideas? Could it be timing? He has never been in a serious relationship and says I am the only person on earth he identifies with besides his best friend. What should I do???

Hey, my name is J.Day. I was baptised in the church at 9 only because of two sister missionaries. Being a small town, I needed to fit in. And now, I find myself researching the gospel, listening to ward missionaries, praying, and attending church. I am getting stronger. I just don't want to regress..:)