lehi1902

Dude, it is a sin, yes, but don't beat yourself up because of it. You're amazing and this is just a minor mistake (although it can lead to much more serious sins). So you can have a little comparison, here's some info for you on this subject: 1) New members of the church are not even asked in their baptismal interviews about this. Actually, the church instructs you not to ask them. You ask about sexual relations and pornography, but not about masturbation. You don't even teach this doctrine to investigators. This is an issue that the new member will have to deal with their Bishops in the future. 2) I'd guess that about 70% of all missionaries masturbate at least once in their missions, and I'd say... about 40% do so throughout their whole missions. I was my MP's assistant for one year and he always knew I struggled with it. 3) According to a well-known mormon psychologist I've met, some General Authorities will tell you masturbation is not a serious sin. You can go on a mission, you can go to the temple. HOWEVER, let me tell you one thing, buddy. Use all of your strength and willpower to overcome this addiction if you can, and it seems that you can. Masturbation will easily lead you to pornography, and then things get much more complicated.

Yeah man the jokes are over. The "tree of life" has been discontinued since 2008 or so... They should now transfer the joke to BYU's locker rooms.

Hey buddy, don't worry. They are all private stalls now. You will be fine.

Thanks for all your comments. This helped me.

You're right, but I don't know how to do that. I've tried it. The problem is... dating IS expensive. I can't afford to go on dates "for fun". If I go on a date, it is because I am interested in that specific girl. If I want to have fun, I will just call some friends and have them over to do something. I know I take dating too seriously, but I don't know how to do it differently.

Thanks for your replies. Eowyn, I don't really know. But generally, girls that match my personality are not interested in me. Girls that I don't connect with are. As for looks, I used to be vain, but now I'm just looking for someone whose company I greatly enjoy. jb789, you're right. My mission president just put this in my mind - that if I set a goal and work hard, I will reach that goal. This is so impregnated in my mind now... and it brings so much frustration. Like you said, there are things I can't control. I should pay more attention to that.

I'm a convert to the church currently going to BYU. Been in the church for 6 years, served a mission and all. Good student, 3.85 GPA, work hard. But there is one thing: I hate dating. My friends joke and say it is funny I'm still single, since I am the most faithful friend they've ever had -- hence, they say, I will be the best husband in the world. But it doesn't matter in how many dates I go, it never works. I just spend my money, girls just waste their time. After the first date, the girls who I generally liked won't show any interest. They might go on another date, but it is clear they are not interested. As of the few girls who show any interest, I'm generally not interested in them. I feel like I'm a failure in dating. All my buddies are married. I feel like I will never get married. And this makes me very resentful. I look at my friends - they were born in the Church, had a great life growing up, asked ONE GIRL on a date, and that was it. Married to awesome, super-cute girls. All my friends married the only girl they ever dated. I've been on dozens of dates and have not found the one - or if I think I did, they didn't think the same. And I become very frustrated and resentful. I feel like I've had enough trials in my life. I know it is a retarded thought, but I can't control it yet. And this resentment brings me terrible days. I need to get better at dating, I think. But I don't know how. You married people, any advice on dating? Any advice on how not to get frustrated? Thanks.

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