phoenix_girl

That sounds like a good idea, trying those virgin drinks :) I dont know what it takes but I am going to stop this bad habit

I like boxing and MMA , I started going to a boxing gym because i wanted to lose some weight , used to b overweight and boxing is one of the most complete sports. THere I lived the adrenalin you feel when fighting the opponent, i dont really think on hurting or seeing the blood on the other person. I had to quit the boxing cause i got sick and lost continuity. After that I started karate do- full contact and kickboxing. I love martial arts, they get the stress out of me. I m a red belt , sparring is a common practice to improve, is like anyother sport, i dont see the purpose as inflicting pain on the other human being, i think is not letting the other party hit you :) , of course we have to kick , is not like ballet.. even thou my mom wishes lol she doesnt like my choice of sports, specially because im a girl.

I never looked at it as an addiction since is a recent problem, it has been on and off for a year. The first time i seriously drank was in a party in college, it was so bad i didnt wake up till the next day, I ended up inthe hospital for 4 days got a pretty bad gastritis, I still suffer the consequences, since that time i promise not to drink and i kept the promise for almost 6 months, after that i started again, but what bothers me is that about two months ago I feel the urge to drink a lot every weekend and i dont know how to overcome it. I started reading the 12 step program even thoug i dont think im addicted or like alcoholic, I must say that my patriarchal blessing warns me about the WoW, it actually says something very specific , that the WOW plays a mayor role on my life. at the time I received it i didnt understand why, i hated the taste of alcohol. BTW thanks everyone for your help

Um.. I dont really like the alcohol taste like beer but i really enjoy cocktails, liquor mixed with juice stuff like that. and when i dont drink i miss the feeling , im usually very stressed out, work and im studying a master degree, so when i drink i feel very relaxed and laid back, after that i feel really bad, like never doing it again, but then it happens again. I stopped the sex, my bf stills tempted but i've been firm on this, because of the temple marriage , every time i feel tempted I remember the scriptures. I recognize is bad as is the drinking, but i guess it became a habit and now is kind of hard to break it. I wanna fast but and ive done it, i feel better for a few days and then the temptation is stronger! and i feel confused why this happens when im trying the most? why everyone invites me to a party or stuff like that.. I told my fiance I wont marry if is not in the temple, that was my dream and i feel bad about it. There's no one that can help me besides my fiance (yeah its kind of ironic he helps becaus he doesnt drink, thats not a problem for him) i feel lonely!

ok, let me explain myself, i used to have problems with law of chastity but my bf is the one that struggles the most to obey it, but we are not doing anything together. And yes i drink, not too much i mean like 2 drinks per week , i can be for one month or two without drinking but then i go out (restaurant, store) and i see the ads and i feel like having one and i start the cycle again. :S , yeah we confess to the bishop because we really want a temple marriage this was like a year ago and he wasnt really helpful, he seemed uncomfortable , and the stake president told us we had to see the bishop not him. I even have a temple recomend for baptism , havent had an interview for like 2 years and i asked for it, but i'd like to be worthy of the temple

Hello! I need some advice on this one. first I give you a little background, Im 22 y/o, being LDS almost all my life, but since some 5 years I havent been what you call active, I mean i go to church or at least try to go every sunday, but I had a lot of issues specially with the law of chastity. I tried to overcome this but then it happened again... My bf was not LDS, he converted (partially) a 1 1/2 year ago, and we are getting married in the temple on august. But there's a problem: my fiance has a very hard time keeping the law of chastity we dont even have a year of doing so, I do the best i can , is not that hard for me i try to help him. The problem is I drink socially, and Ive tried to stop but for some reason i cant, i dont drink too much, but whenever there`s a party or i will just have a drink at home. no one knows this, my family is LDS too and they wouldnt accept it obviously, my bishop doesnt seem to help me , he didnt help my bf when he asked about some questions , he rather looked kind of confused, so what i do? I am trying i know is bad, i know i have to keep the wow in order to have a temple recomend. i dont have a problem keeping the law of chastity , not anymore, tithing, etc. is just this drinking habit ! i havent find any articles of websites that help they only say drink with moderation and i dont want that. I know this church is true, but i dont feel the spirit with me! sorry i vent here... but i need some advice.