IamMormonHewastoo

@ Suzie- I feel that some of his concerns are valid. I also feel that our perspectives are so different. I tend to shrug off the things I don't understand and believe that people in the church are generally good and just trying to do the right thing. I think for him he is just so angry that anyone could profess to be in the "true" church or that it's not OK to be a "cafeteria Mormon." I understand what he is saying, it is just hard for me to understand why he would allow himself to get so angry over it. Maybe I'm just not being sensitive enough...?

Thank you for all the replies, this has certainly been a source of comfort. As I've been reading, studying, praying, and searching, I am feeling that staying committed to my marriage is the right thing to do. I know it will take time and patience, but I feel that I will be judged for my choices - including the choice of deciding to stay when the going gets tough. I truly appreciate your thoughts and advice, it has helped more than you know.

The thing that scares me the most is how much anger he has towards the Church. I have a very strong testimony and I can't imagine myself without the Gospel, but he has a lot of issues with church history and it seems he just gets more and more angry every Sunday and during conference. I'm feeling very scared that we have such different views and my heart just aches.

I have had reservations about joining a site like this. I think because I didn't want to come to terms with my Husbands disaffection. We've only been married 8 months. We didn't realize how polarized our views are, but now I'm just scared. I love him. I'm trying to be supportive. I feel I am doing the best I can. I am just scared. I'm scared I won't have the eternal family I hoped for. How am I supposed to raise our kids in the Church alone? Should we even have kids? Am I supposed to get divorced? I would just really appreciate some words of wisdom and comfort. I just want so badly to do what is right. Post Edit: I apologize, I didn't even explain what the main issue is! We have different views regarding the Church. He doesn't feel like he can truly believe in it, and to me it is completely who I am. I didn't understand to what extent his frustrations and anger toward the Church are until after we were married.