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brokendoll, Life is tough and you don't have anything to repent of. You are doing the best you can. Jesus said the two great commandments are love God and love your neighbor. Marriage is not the purpose of life. The purpose of life is to learn how to love. Marriage is an important tool in the process of learning to love. Frankly, I'm not sure I know what marriage in the afterlife is all about. If I die my wife can remarry and when she is dead, we're all dead she could be sealed that that other dude. She'd have two husbands in the afterlife. When you are dead someone could seal you to all husdands to whom you were legally married. Joseph Smith was sealed to several women and many of those women were already married. It does not fit our ideal for marriage that we currently have. You don't need to beat yourself up over your marriage difficulties. Just keep trying. Be honest and try to love people. That's all that matters. God wants us to be happy and he knows life is hard. That's why he gave us Jesus. I don't think God wants you to beat yourself up over your difficulties. Just try to love your kids, your husband and be happy.

This is exactly what bothers me. We can't tell young people they can't have sex and at the same time tell them they can't get married. As a teenager it was only possible becasue I didn't date anyone seriously. I was avoiding a relationship at that time (and its a good thing too). When you get into your twenties everybody is dating seriously and having sex and a lot are getting married. If you find yourself in love at that age we must encourage marriage or else we can't be surprised if they don't remain chaste. The church (to its credit) encourages marriage even for young people. Its the only rational thing to do when you are telling people to not have sex outside marriage.

I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. I should have stated it differently. The OP is what inspired my comment and so my mind was directed toward people struggling with chastity. I don't blame you for taking offense but maybe you could give me some leeway when you consider the setting and context of the thread. cheers!

Chillax. My comments are not directed toward people who are happily single with no problems. My comments are directed toward people who are single and having a problem living the law of chastity but are not considering marriage as an option. It's okay if people do not get married till later in life or never. Its great if people don't have a problem with chastity. Its not so great if a couple has a problem with chastity (which is normal), they like to spend time together but beat themselves up over the difficulty of being chaste but do not seriously consider giving themselves the freedom of doing what is natural and good under the marriage agreement. If a couple has a hard time obeying chastity together and they really want to obey the law of chastity but they know for certain they do not want to marry each other then the solution is very simple; break up! Completely break up and keep dating other people untill you find someone you want to marry. Once a couple breaks up I guarantee the law of chasity will not longer be a problem for them.

Mixing modern culture with mormon standards is difficult and unnatural. In our modern culture we often wait till we are a little older to get married and we date for a long time before we get married. Frankly, I don't comprehend how anyone can remain chaste under these circumstances. God made us to want to have sex. My wife and I felt so bad about ourselves while we were dating becasue it was so hard to keep our hands off each other. Luckily our bishops allowed us to get married in the temple but looking back on it, I kind of feel bad that I had so much guilt over somthing so natural and normal and somthing that makes us happy. The law of chastity is a good idea but trying to live it till your 25 and dating the same person for two years is stupid. We dated for 6 months and married young and after 10 years of marriage I have no regrets. All you poor single people should just put yourselvs out of your misery and get married. Avoiding marriage and avoiding sex at the same time is a lost cause, its only going to lead to unhealthy psychological issues.