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How do I let HIM work on HIS addiction without getting walked all over? And how do I set boundries?

OKay, so I am one of the many wives who has been dealing with her husbands pornagraphy addiction. Going on 6 years. He does want to change. Yet he has not hit the point where he will do anything to change. He also has not had a change of heart:(. WE have done everything you can think of. Just recently HE went and got a labtop that he expensed for work. I told him he needed to put a filter on it. HE said no! That they don't work and he cant get on important work websites when he has them on. I was debating if i should just get his computer when he's sleeping and put a filter on it anyway? Would that be trying to take control of his addiction or help me with my recovery? So many questions with this addiction! WHen to let go and let god and when to be supportive. Such a challenge! Advice anyone?