yodabrooke

INFJ- The Protector :)

Its going to take time, I've been through somthing like this Its going to take a wile for you to trust her and she needs to understand that. She needs to be willing to deal with you asking questions for your own trust.. But you also have to learn to trust if she is where she says she is and no contact is made then you need to get better and be willing to trust again... I went through this, I set up an on line account and checked his phone for text or calls from the # I knew was her. I could see how many they had in the past which was alot. and then if there were any then. I did see a few coming from her phone but no going out or one or two. I found out when he broke it off she tried to get a hold of him but he just kept telling her to leave him alone. which was verified by all the ones she was sending to him and none going out. That made me feel a little better then till there were none at all. I did this with out my husbands knowledge because I had to know if i was being told the truth. I did tell him after and had to let him know because that wasn't very honest either, but it did make me feel better. When i told him i could tell he didn't like it, but he could see how much it helped me through it. It took me along time to really not let my mind go crazy if he went to the store or whatever.. You just have to be willing to let her earn the trust and she has to be willing to let you get what you need to trust her. hope this help I know its hard! [edit] I used the att website, also i think you should try to save it before giving up so you can tell your kids you did all that you knew how to do to save your relationsip when their older.

I agree with you, I read a blog that had a real good point and a case so strong that I was thinking. That everything I knew was a lie, Joseph Smith was a lie, my feelings were a lie that the spirit that has spoke to my heart was a lie. I knew the spirit spoke to me but I was seeing with my eyes that it was a lie. How would I ever be able to trust that again? Well how could I believe in god now, how would I know? I can see why alot of Mormons would go atheists. If I wouldn't have studied and prayed for weeks and months I know I would have been Atheists. I found so many things they left out that it is just wrong to do that to people. But I have learned to look deeper into things and to trust the spirit but it was not an easy road. But also I can see that they don't understand the damage because they don't believe what we do and they don't know how powerful we feel the spirit, because in their minds we don't.

:) Ya know i'm sure your not the only one that feels this way in the ward. I'm sure if you look around you will see some people that don't really stand around and talk to every one. They are harder to notice because they are more quiet. You might try to reach out to one of them and find you are not the only one that feels that way. I bet you could make a real good friend and remember they don't have to be your same age they might be a grandma or an single mom or someone with a family but husbands in active etc. whatever it might be you will gain a friend and you might make someone feel like they have a friend in the ward too. I don't really feel I need to go out of my way for the ones that always have someone around them. i shoot for the ones that don't I get better friends that way. I'm 28 have and have a nonmember husband and two boys and I have a really good friend at church and she is like 60+ husbands passed away and kids grown up and i just love her. I do try to find people that are not in clicks and bring them to my end.... But I have caught myself not doing this when I am going threw a lot with my life or just think that i am i am less likely to talk to others

Sounds like to me your depressed, I Know how it can be if your at home all day and with kids. Get out of the house and do some really fun stuff. Like ask your local sears for some Refrigerator boxes and build your daughter a play house. That is something to talk about. Do some fun play date with friends now with that said...... Also every once in a wile get a baby sitter for when he gets off work and do something special with just him :) you need and and so does he. Get your friend back girl crying wont do it i know Ive done both.

Well let's look at some facts most the post you see on the internet come from the so called documentary that was put out by the IRR which is an organization that works on getting lds back to the "in their minds" true Christ. When in fact they make it out to be true fact is only half true and mostly to deceive. Most that watch or read the blogs don't know that they state things as fact when only half is true and the other half is to deceive. For example the Joseph smith pyre that was found which is the book of breathing was with many documents found. Joseph smith said that the BOA was a long scroll wrote in black and red. This can be accounted by others that saw it. They leave this part out of the story. The book of breathing was not a long scroll and no red writing on it so it is not what was used. Also let's look at the document that had the English hand writing of the book of Abraham and the Egyptian. Forensics has looked at this and it turns out that the English was wrote first they were actually able to even found that the Egyptian overlapped ontop of the English ink. Where for it was not used for a translation. Many people tried to figure out the translation process. The English was not even in Joseph's hand writing. This fact is left out to. It’s like the saying the devil will tell you 100 truths to make you believe one big lie. This will not give you a testimony but it might help you wonder about a sight that leaves out facts to make you see one opinion. Of course I have not wrote down all the facts but I have wrote the ones I remember because I too struggled with this. Please excuse me i am typing on my phone. Lol p