What your RS PRes said is shocking and sounds like unrighteous dominion and/or a lack of understanding of her role. As for asking to be released, I'm learning more and more how very important PERSONAL REVELATION is. If you are FEELING you should be released, I find going to the bishop is a time to invite and/or confirm the revelatory process. You know how you have felt. As you take that feeling and talk with him in the spirit of counseling, you invite revelation. You can discuss with him your concerns and feelings and as he listens and you listen you might discover together that it IS time for a release rather than just going in and asking to be released. Then you know it is God's will by the "law of witnesses". We often fall short of utilizing that gift we all have for PERSONAL REVELATION. Going to the bishop with that Personal Revelation gives us that second witness which helps us not feel bad about those feelings.