kikiah2

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In my area part of the hospitals money making scheme and yes that is exactly what it is, confirmed by this doctor himself, doctors that have nothing to do with anything in particular will enter, say hello ask how you are listen to your heart or something simple then bill an outrageous amount in my case $500. This hospital is under investigation for numerous fraud cases

I feel i must reply to this comment about clergy and hospital not intermingling. For one it is always allowed in the area hospitals. It is a very common occurrence and I didn't ask him in particular. I wasn't even fully aware of everything going on around me at the time. I had just had a stroke. I believe he is the one that approached me and asked if I wanted one. Only a few short minutes after it had been administered my Bishop of the time showed up, so his behavior remains confusing. Despite that it doesn't excuse the cold shoulder after. Even with separating work from church, why ask me how my health is when in a church setting if you know full well its ill advised and you can't discuss it. Not only that how can you be a bishop when you are treating a good share of your clergy. Your point only muddied this water further. It is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS available at hopitals! The hospital has no legal leg to stand on. This particular man happens to do this regularly so I guarantee he didn't have any recourse from the hospital board about what happened there. As for forgiving him.....HE IS HUMAN! I understand we don't react to each and every person the same way. This has nothing to do with not forgiving him. It has everything to do with our personalities don't mesh and I'm not comfortable at this point in his new calling to rely on him. This does not mean that I can't sustain him or work with him in the future. As confusing as this may seem it is very doable. I know he was called of God for God's reasons. I may have been stunned by it but also realize it can change this man for the better. I also know that because he does have an incredible amount of faith he will improve who he is and become a better man. God will work his magic with him as He does with everyone else. But my human side will need time to catch up to it all and I can't wait to get my temple recommend back my spiritual health needs to partake of that sacrament again and return to where I belong. It isn't a simple interview for a temple recommend it does require another counsel.

Thanks for the replies. I've only been active the last 1.5 years and not sure of how things work. I don't want to cause problems for him. I know that he is called of God and that reason could very well be more for him than anyone else.

I'm going to give a little history before I ask the actual question that I'm seeking advice on... Almost a year ago (at 34) I had a stroke. When I was taken to the hospital the on call doctor was also the first counselor on my Bishopric. He was a little flippant with me and hesitant to offer me a blessing. He reluctantly found another to help him and I received the blessing. At discharge there was a dr enter my room that I didn't know. When he Left this dr came in and told me to check my bill and if that dr billed me then I was to bring the bill to him and he would take care of it because he wasn't given permission to enter my room. So when the bill came in I took it to the counselor/dr and he refused to follow through with his offer. I continually called his office and asked when I saw him at church functions if my test results had come back in. After 4 months I scheduled an apt with another specialist to figure out what the results where. Suddenly the results were in and he set me up an appt with him instead of the specialist. When I got in to see him I had tried to tell him the blood thinners he had me on were making me sick. I put on 25 lbs in a month, my bp was sky high and i had difficulty breathing. He knew I was an avid runner and his reply with a giggle was, sure sucks trying to run when your this heavy isn't it. Needless to say I found a new dr and felt awkward around him at church. ONe day he asked me how my health was. At that point I was not doing well the medication had made me suicidal and over all felt terrible. I told him I was scared because things weren't right. He brushed me off and told me to stop worrying just take the medication and everything would be fine and walked away. I had another episode where I thought I was having another stroke and another member came to take me to the dr. She took it upon herself to call this dr to ask if he thought i should go to the hospital. It was decided to just go to urgent care, the dr that was there had to call him again because he didn't have the info needed, in my chart. Both these calls he billed me for. so I had 2 office visit bills for one incident. This is how the man has always treated me and many others I know of. Ok during this time i hit bottom and committed a big enough sin to lose my temple recommend. WHen I did my counsel I told the bishop that i wouldn't do it if this counselor had to take part in it and explained what had transpired. He said it was no biggie and it proceeded with out his first counselor. I was put on 6 months of probation and my time is up that I can get my recommend back. but lo and behold last week this first counselor became my current bishop. My question; is there another way to go about getting my recommend back with out discussing everything with this new bishopric? I don't trust this man, I don't feel comfortable reconfessing my sin and dredging that horrible time back up. I can sustain this man as bishop and pray for him especially that he can learn some compassion to help him lead us. but at this point I can't confide in him and feel that things will go well. Is there another way to go about getting my recommend back considering the fact I have issues with the current bishop. I don't want to wait I need back in the temple. But how can someone care about my spiritual health when they don't have an ounce of concern for my physical health?