I am searching for a specific conference talk, or perhaps it was a worldwide leadership training discussion, which discussed principles of discussing individuals in a council setting. As I recall, the instruction went something like this: Place an empty chair in the circle and image that person present as you discuss that individual. That way, you can be assured that your comments are loving, free from criticism and in keeping with principles of confidentiality. Does this ring any bells with anyone? If you can point me to such a source, it would be really appreciated.
