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My friend is facing a disciplinary council soon. He is concerned that his exwife will be notified of the results if it is excommunication. Their divorce was less than amicable and is VERY worried she will take this information and spread gossip. She has done so since their divorce and has been very ugly and destructive. She is also LDS and to others maintains he abused her. Is there any request he can make to have this information stay confidential or since they were sealed, will they notify her anyway? Also, what would be IN the letter if she is notified? Details or just a generic form letter? Thanks in advance. He is humbly trying to follow the proper channels of authority, but worried for his kids, profession and reputation.

This entire situation has not been handled through the bishop...because while still married, the couple counseled with the Bishop and he suggested her issues needed to be dropped and that the husband did nothing wrong...she needed to move on. She then went "over his head" to the SP who then took the ball and ran with it. The SP even went so far as to call the ex wife to tell her the results of the counsel...so very quickly the news spread of the judgement. I've seen his vague communications on the subject and when repeatedly asked what the sin was the caused the action would either not respond or reply with "you know what you did". FYI, that SP has now been released. This is a very sad situation that will take years to heal. Hopefully all will come out in the Lord's time. We all know our church leaders do their best to follow the Spirit and do the best they can, but they ARE human. I am so very proud of this brother who has remained steadfast in his church attendance. He has the same mantra of Joseph Smith when he saw the first vision: "I knew it, and I knew God knew it". Right now, that's the best we can all do, knowing our Father knows ALL. We must be patient in waiting for the wrongs to be righted...all will be taken care of in the end. I thank you all for your input.

PS. All kids are grown and because of her actions want little to do with the church. They stand by their father.

Thank you all... all perspectives are welcome and needed. As for how I know they are lies, there is evidence that was not allowed during the process. I guess I just need to stay out of it. :/ Hurts to watch a friend go through this. I have seen this woman in action. Scary. She's a very good actress.

If a woman tells lies to get her husband disfellowshipped - what is necessary to prove she bore false witness and are such church court decisions ever "overturned" and the innocent person reinstated? This man has been virtually shunned by his ward and stake members due to her lies. The husband and wife are now divorced. He still attends church dutifully. As his friend, I have attended church with him on three occasions and in that time the only person who spoke to us was the bishop, and that was just once. He has a protection order against her for stalking and bizzare erratic behavior and there is now a warrant for her arrest for reckless endangerment. Yet she can still hold a calling and continually spread lies about him in church (and virtually anyone who will listen). Can or should anything be done, or just turn the other cheek and let it all get worked out on the other side?