Momofmonkeys

I guess my whole thought in going to the bishop was for help in trying to reunite them before their wedding. Yes we are not truly related, but they are family. I have been with them and they with us forever it seems. I am hurting for my friend because her daughter is leaving (believe me, letting my son grow up was hard, and I had many a night of my own pity party's) but I am also hurting for her daughter, this is supposed to be a joyous time for her, and look at this mess. I guess I just feel so helpless and sad for all of them. The parents have tried twice to have a sit down with them, once in their home (they refused) and once at church (they never showed). Such sadness in such a wonderful time in life.

I guess my whole thought in going to the bishop was for help in trying to reunite them before their wedding. Yes we are not truly related, but they are family. I have been with them and they with us forever it seems. I am hurting for my friend because her daughter is leaving (believe me, letting my son grow up was hard, and I had many a night of my own pity party's) but I am also hurting for her daughter, this is supposed to be a joyous time for her, and look at this mess. I guess I just feel so helpless and sad for all of them. The parents have tried twice to have a sit down with them, once in their home (they refused) and once at church (they never showed). Such sadness in such a wonderful time in life.

I am a member of the LDS Church, a convert from over 16 years ago. My husband of 20 years is a lifelong member, and we were sealed 14 years ago, after our third child was born. My best friend is also a convert, and we have so much in common. I'm here looking for advice, answers, not sure where to turn. Our oldest children have graduated from high school and are starting on their lives. My son is now in the USAF, and has no thoughts of marriage right now, and is starting his career, my best friends daughter has fallen in love with a returned missionary and they have gotten engaged. Now, I love her, and support her wish to be married, but her parents have requested that they wait till May. Her father cannot request time off till then, and it gives them time to plan, save money for a dress, etc. Well, they said that they (the couple) prayed about this, and January is the time. The fiancé never asked the father permission to wed in the beginning, and now the mother and daughter are not even speaking. She (the daughter) has been spinning the truth some what, that other women in the ward have altered her gown, and are throwing her a bridal shower without an invite to mom. I love them so much, that I don't know where to turn. Do I go to the bishop? I am one of the very few that has seen both sides. I know what is in each of their hearts, but how can I stand by and watch this couple start their lives off together, without her parents there. They spent christmas apart. This is heartbreaking! How can they go to the Temple with such anger.