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The thing is I'm not so good with doing that either. I'm a shy girl.

No I'm not a coordinator I don't do the callings or the emails. This other lady does all of that. I would get a call or texts from her to cook and bring food for people.

It's a compassionate service something calling like I have to cook and stuff for people who are sick . Im confused and frustrated because I can't even cook for myself. I've been avoiding lots of people from church because I don't know what to tell them ESP my bishop. I'm not even able to drive around that much just yet and I'm not even able to get back to work.

So I have a bunion surgery around dec. and it's healing and all but I'm not 100 percent back to normal just yet . My foot is in my pain when standing for a long period of time . I'm limping around and it's swollen. I m not sure how to go about telling my bishop that I'm not ready to fullfill my calling just yet. I am in pain still .. I'm going to go see my dr this wedn. I'm frustrated because I want to fullfill my calling so bad and be apart of my ward . I love being mormon and right now I just want to avoid everyone because I don't want to face anyone since I'm not able to do my callings. I'm not sure what to . I've ready deleted alot of people of my fb from the ward because I was going to shut my fb down but ended up changing my mind. I know I'm being childish and I need to talk to my bishop about it instead of avoiding him. I'm so confused.

ohh ic ok yeah i think that would be ok to talk to bishop about it then thanks

i totally agreed with everyone on here i totally do ! i don't like to talk or share my feelings with others. I need to learn how to do that. i don't want to talk to bishop about the guy who comes over my house to eat with the elders because i don't want the missionaries to feel bad since it's not their fault at all. i don't know alot of male friends that live close by and other men from my ward are not always free to come out with the missionaries so they would always ask that same guy because he doesn't have a job. he's always free. thanks for your advice everyone i will pray about it though i don't think i can get out of my house today or this weekend anyway since there will be a bad snowstorm.

i'm just really fed up with him if this is another family i would do it without thinking twice.

no it's the son and i know him. he comes over my house all the time with the missionaries for dinner but when i wasn't well right after my surgery he never call or fb me to see how i am doing but always comes over with the elders and eat alot. i would order the elders food from olive garden and tgif i think he think that i would do the same for him and his mom if he was to request meals. i'm just fed up with him i guess though this week i had the elders come by to pick up lunch from me real quick instead of have him over with them because im tired of feeding him also and today i got a text that him and his mother want meals. he's a man he should be taking care of his mother.

Anddenexx that is soo true though i'm not a compassionate service coordinator i m one of the compassionate service person the coordinator is the one who texted me earlier to see if i can provide this family a meal for the next few nights. i don't like to say no i don't want to do it either.

i'm not use to asking or getting help from anyone i have always been very independent i don't feel comfortable accepting helps from anyone..

i feel horrible for feeling like this but coming from someone like me who would never depend on anyone unless i really have to i just feel that if one can help themselves, one should do it. i had surgery on my foot and yes i was offered by church relief society and hometeachers to stop by to bring me food but i've always turned it down because i can order the food myself from a restaurant nearby or depend on a family s member to provide me food even though i was on crutch and couldn't walk around at all. I was basically crawling around my house alot but never once i would bother anyone for help.

i totally agreed with u on this i think i need to talk to the bishop about it. i would love to do it if the mom live by herself but she live with her son and her son is not sick. I love to serve but only to those that really needs it.

Yes i want to serve but i also don't want to serve those that are able to do it themselves it's justlike im enabling them. I feel as if i am being taking advantage of. If i was to say yes and i'll do it. This man will cont. to request it.

So i was inactive for a while and for the last 6 months or so i've been pretty active with going to church and have a calling called compassionate service person which is cool i don't mind and all oh by the way two months ago i went through a surgery on my foot for bunion so i am about 70 percent better now though i'm still unable to walk around alot i'm still limping and ive been doing my job as a compassionate service though one thing earlier today i got a text from one of the leader on my service asking if i can provide meals for this man and his mom since the mom is not feeling well. By the way her son is around late 20s i know him from the missionaries in our ward since everytime the elders comes over my house for dinner they would bring him with them since he is always free to come by my house. I don't mind at first and all but now its getting to me how he eat alot everytime he comes over and there are times where he would want to take some home too just because i offered it to the elders to take the left over food home. He never bring dessert or anything of that sort either. he comes over to my house to eat. Does he know that the only reason why he's at my house because the elders invite him over since they can't be with me alone. Don't get me wrong but its been going on for soo long and i'm sick and tired of feeding that guy and today as i mentioned i got a text from the leader of compassionate service lady earlier and she asked if i can bring him and his mother a meal for the next few days. I feel though as if this guy requested this from my leader because he knows what kind of food i provide since everytime he's over at my house to eat im always serving the elders really good food. Now he want me to come bring him and his mom food. He's not disable in anyway. I feel that he need to feed his family. Am i acting rediculous for feeling this way?? i'm on a leave of absence from work right now i'm not completely back to normal yet. I don't feel comfortable providing meals to him and his mom. I haven't replied back to my leader yet because i don't know what to do. We suppose to get bad weather tomorrow and this weekend i don't drive in the snow esp. with my foot being like that. Oh don't get me wrong i do love serving the missionaries food since they are out doing the lord work but with this guy i do mind.

I think if you have some sort of believe in christ things would be a lil better. this guy doesn't believe in anything beside being greedy with his money.

yeah i know that i am going through some sort of trials right now and i hope that it'll go away sooner than later.

We have a house together so it's not that easy to just walk out and leave him with the mortgage so im pretty much just stuck. It was a good reason back than but not after he yells and scream at me for every lil things and it's just getting worse and worse. One day he will leave me no choice but to pick up and leave. This man will never going to change. I love to be able to just stay married since i do not believe in giving up on a marriage but it looks like i don't have a choice. His temper is horrible .

Yep all he cares about is money greed is such an evil thing he even told me himself that money is number 1 thing to him.

Yea i know and ive been doing alot of praying about it too

Trust me Anetess I think I learned my lesson with men .. So the next guy better be lds and have great personality. I'm not going to just settle . I would rather be alone then being unhappy !

I ve been with this man for 13 years and married to him for 4 years so trust me I have tried to work things out with him. I'm very patience ! I wanted kids a while ago but he told me he s not ready now that he s ready I realized that he s not the kind of man I would want him to be the head of my household cause all he cares about is money.

Yea I am acting upon it :) thanks again everyone

I do pray a whole lot about everything. I know my answer even though I really want kids but not with this man.

That's true Pam.. I ve learned soo much over the years .

Thanks everyone :)eowyn act upon what? I can't just go out there and pick out a guy. I can't force that. The only thing that I can do right now is getting the education to secure my future.