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It seems, like I often do as well, you are asking for opinions of others when your mind is already set and ready, that you want to stay or justify the anger you are feeling. Anger is a secondary emotion of fear and sadness, which someone who has been abused would most definitely feel. I personally have sat and am sitting in anger and also trying to work out how to get out of the anger cycle. I call it a cycle for me because there are times when I am doing much better with feeling compassion for those who have hurt me and other times when I think of all the awful ways to tip the justice scales more fairly. I developed an entire blog on forgiveness in the last 2 months based solely on the fact that someone hurt me. This is my way of trying to think differently than wanting to tear someone's head off. President Monson gave a beautiful talk back in 2009 on the subject of anger. It has so many nuggets of wisdom...School Thy Feelings, O My Brother - general-conference I know the offenses he mentions in here don't seem to compare to abuse, but I think a major point in a lot of these replies you are receiving is to think of the Savior who was abused more than any other person on this planet, and what did He do? He laid down His life for the ones who abused Him. He increased His love for them. Somehow He was able to love the person and not the acts of sin or abuse.

Thanks for your responses. I actually have a letter from the married man she was dating as far as proof (long story, she was using my computer) goes and then she was with a woman briefly too. I talked to her a few times about it and then she got upset and its put a damper on the friendship. (I hope that's not giving too much info, hoping it's ok since no one knows her) I worry about her. I know we all have our weaknesses but I just want her to be ready when she goes through the temple. Forgot to mention she was yw pres at time of both, she is now in scouts.

I am a victim of sexual abuse as well. I have read a few books including the peacekeeper and falling to heaven. I think that anger is something that we need to learn to get over but that certain actions justify. I think it's important to note that Jesus did cleanse the temple from the money changers but that He ultimately laid down His life for these people too. Meaning we still need to be able to overcome the anger and get to a place of forgiveness. Ferrell in Falling to Heaven writes that forgiveness is "repenting for failing to love." Sexual abuse is heinous and grievous to levels few can understand, I think as long as we are working on having forgiveness and compassion towards the person not the act, the Savior will shoulder this with us. It sucks and I'm better at saying it than practicing it, but that's my two cents.

Hi all, I have been lurking for a few days. What is your opinion on what to do if a friend has confided in you and is attending the temple unworthily? If the friend's weakness is in the area of going against the law of chastity. Do you let her bishop or St Pres know or leave that up to the person since it's their business? Any thoughts?