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She says she does yes.. She felted prompted that this was her answer since last October.

@mnn727, As far as the move. Not much would change for me, my commute to work would be comparable and housing would comparable as well. The biggest change would be for the kids. The kids do love her and she is good would them; but I would see a problem that I feel she is used to having much more free time than most parents have. Another concern.. Again thanks for everyone's input.

Thanks to all for your kind and insightful responses: You have already given many me many more aspects to consider.. As a follow up, she is not totally unwilling to relocate; she wants to compromise somewhere in the middle of our vicinities. The reason she wants to stay close to where she currently resides is because of her "part time job" She is an instructor at a gym and she loves it; I can not ask her to give that up. It requires her to be there very early in the morning. Her drive and dedication is one of the things that attracted me to her. On the other hand my boys have been through a lot and I have asked them about moving schools to which most of the time they respond that they don't want to move school. ( Unless they had a bad day for some reason.) My drive and dedication is to my kids. I guess maybe I have my answer; it is just a hard decision. I need to give her an answer and we need to head one direction or another because she deserves to have a family of her own. I do feel that she is kind of giving up the opportunity of a family for a part time fun job, and she thinks I am unwilling to compromise. It is not that I am unwilling to move; I am just not feeling that it is in the best interest of the kids.

A little background: I am a single father of 3 boys. I have been divorced for 7 years and I have had full custody of my boys for 4 years. I am in my mid 30s and my boys are 15, 12, and 8 There is a woman I have dated on and off for the past 4+ years. (more on than off). She is also divorced and never had any children of her own. She is very independent and values her career and her free time. We have talked about marriage for several years but we are never on quite the same page. At times I have been ready and wanted marriage and at times she has but I wasn't feeling ready. We have struggled to find middle ground on many issues; mostly logistical like where to live and how to blend the family. She likes where she lives and is close to her work; and that is her comfort zone. I live about 20 miles away and my kids and I have established our social network and the kids don't really want to move schools; in fact I feel guilty and selfish trying to make them. She doesn't want to move by me and I don't want to move by her. Last fall she felt prompted that things were right between us and that we should get married; and I felt prompted that it was time to move on (although at other times I thought it was right). We are NEVER on the same page and have had multiple role reversals. For the past 5 months we have kind of been in limbo trying to make the right decision for everyone. It has been tough. She has been my best friend for the past 4+ years. We have so many things in common it is almost uncanny; and I know I will never find someone like her. I know that I love her. But she is independent and I am not sure she is really ready to jump in the mix with me a and 3 boys. My boys need a mother though. I have fasted at least twice a month and prayed about it every day for 5 months. I have spoken with my bishop on multiple occasions. I simply can not come up with an answer that feels right. My heart says I love her; but my head says it will not work and that we are never on the same page. I feel like it is time to just make a decision and stick with it; but with so much on the line it is a hard one. If it was right would it be this hard? Any advice?