Orion

Thanks, I've heard that talk and it makes your point well. All of these points have been on the forefront of my mind for quite a while as this girl is only the most recent source of anxiety (I've been officially dealing with this for nearly 2 years now, though it started before). I've learned that time usually is the best indicator of whether or not something needs to be done. Normally I wouldn't try to seek out revelation this early in the game, but I hung out with this girl frequently 6 months prior to ever dating her. Things have thus escalated pretty quickly. However, I do admit to being a bit confused by the idea of saving serious prayer till late in the game. I try to pray about most things so as to remain open to the spirit's direction. I guess it's easy for things to go awry with this when you're as serious about everyday things as I am, haha. Something to work on, I suppose. As for therapy, I've already been to see a therapist before. It was alright...I kind of worked things out on my own, though (I'm a senior in psychology, so at the very least I know where to find information). Honestly, I found the experience really awkward. I would much prefer to discuss things with family or a significant other. Too bad seeking out my significant other is one of the greatest sources of anxiety Anyways, thanks for your encouragement! I've kind of chilled out for the moment. I don't know the answer to my initial question, necessarily, but we'll see what happens! It's just always thrown me for a loop since revelation can be so tied to emotion. This runs deeper than just this situation, specifically.

Hello all! So, I'm just going to jump right in here. I'm facing a dilemma in regards to the girl I'm dating. To give a bit of background, I'm a 24 year old rm, and she's 21. Since my mission, I've dated quite a few girls without ever quite getting to a relationship. A couple of times I would just get a bad feeling and would call it quits before things got worse. Looking back, I was never sure if this was a form of revelation, or simply my anxiety kicking in. To make matters worse, my anxiety can trigger depression, which can trigger panic attacks. Now, the big question: as stated before, I've broken up with a girl over these feelings. They often come during prayer or scripture study. I try to find a way around it if I like the girl. One time it did come to a panic attack, at which point I promptly cancelled a date to make the feeling go away. (I did end up dating her a couple more times after that, but things definitely went downhill after the incident.) So now I'm seeing a girl that I'm really getting to like a lot. We aren't quite in a relationship, but we're getting there. I've had the occasional doubt here and there, but never anything serious. We did break things off briefly because she's a bit torn between me and her missionary (he'll be coming home in a few months). But it only took a couple of days for things to start back up again. Now, the dilemma: while watching conference today, I went in hoping to find a bit of insight into whether or not a relationship was a good idea with this girl, as I'm really starting to like her. Unfortunately, I started getting a sinking feeling watching the talks, and by the end I was devastated, almost sure that I should break up with her. I came home to pray about it and had to stop halfway as I almost had a panic attack. I took time to go talk to people as that usually helps prevent things from getting worse, but I couldn't shake the feeling. By next conference, it had come to the point where I was basically thinking I had to break up with the girl or deny my testimony of revelation. I hated the idea, but gave into it. This brought a bit of relief, and I was able to think clearly again. It's now later in the day, and I've already seen her twice. I thoroughly enjoy her company, so naturally I didn't break things off. Now I'm left with the question of whether or not this was an answer to a prayer, or just another bout of anxiety. Any takers?