Hello
Hopefully someone can give me some help. My wife had an affair about two years ago, I caught her and she admitted it. Since then we have gone to counseling and have tried to put our marriage back together. My wife refused to go and confess to the bishop, she always said that she was to scared to do it. I told her it was up to her and it was something that I couldnt do for her. I kind of wanted her to take the lead on that part of the affair because I was the one the found us a counselor made the appointments and did allot of the work to keep the marriage together.
Well she has was recently called to be the first counselor in the relief society and when she met with the Bishop she mentioned that she had an affair. Later that night we both went down and met with the bishop, whom I am friends with outside of church, anyhow we barely talked about the affair he told us that he was not going to involve the 1st and 2nd counselors and that we could just talk about it. He said that we would meet again in about three weeks. That was almost 4 months ago.
To be honest I kind of feel like my bishop may have dropped the ball on this a bit, here is where I need some help. I grew up my whole life thinking adultery was such a big sin, and now it seems like it has just been swept under the rug. My wife doesnt want to talk about it, my bishop doesnt want to talk about it, she is the first counselor in the relief society, takes the sacrement every week, and I honestly feel that she would have never gone to the bishop until he called her in.
I will admit that I am still hurt, this has been a very very heavy load for me to carry. It has kind of rocked my testimony and I am not feeling very comfortable at church. I always thought adultery was a serious sin... is it? Maybe it is so common that the church is dealing with it differently. I will talk with my bishop, maybe he forgot about it, and in all honesty that is probably what it is. I know they have allot on thier plate.
Has anyone been through anything like this with thier spouse? How was it dealt with? Is adultery a major sin, maybe I am making more out of this, I will admit I am still hurt and I still dont understand what happened with the affair in the first place, so maybe it is me.
Thank you in advance.
