I'm new here so hello! Been with my partner 12 years, mostly good until his son arrived, lots of issues and disagreements, not able to team work, agree etc, lived apart but stayed a couple. Now living together again but problem with son not keeping himself clean, me having to raise the issue on a weekly basis, partner taking offence, resulting in argument and not talking, so it never gets resolved.
Feel my partner is not listening to me, doesn't take on board what I say and turns it around so he is the victim and I am the baddie. Is asking that his son washes too much to be able to expect - it would appear so.
Starting to feel that this is never going to work, esp if we can't sit down and discuss things without him taking offence all the time and not speaking to me; starting to feel like I am wasting my time, he is hurting me very much and our relationship, his actions don't tell me he is wanting to save this or values me enough to fight for us and I can't do all the work, it takes two.
The issue of his son not washing should have been resolved ages ago, my partner is either incapable of parenting his son (son is nearly 18!) or just flatly refuses to do it so is happy to allow me to remain unhappy at the situation.
I love him but I am thinking this will never change and I should get out now, anyone got any advice or thoughts on this, I feel so frustrated at it all.
