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Thank you yjacket. Yes, it is comforting. And a friend has encouraged me that he could still be sealed to us. Which makes my husband stepping back even more distressing. Thank you also ByteBear and ChosenFrozen. At this point it just seems like he's making excuses. And the priesthood does seem to be the reason. Do the men read out loud in the meeting? If so, I'm almost certain that's he reason. My husband does not read well, at all. I only share this because nobody here knows me or him, I would not want to embarrass him since most people do not know this about him. He has read the brochures and the Book of Mormon, but the missionaries don't understand. He can read something, but that doesn't always mean he's understanding it because he's focusing so much on the reading aspect. So they keep asking, asking, asking about what he's read and I picked up on that's when he really starts putting up excuses and things. And if that's what it's like in the priesthood, it will be very hard for him to go back. In other places when it's become obvious they will expect him to read, he excuses himself to the bathroom. In another case we'd always sit so that when it was his turn, I'd just skip him and start reading. One church we went to assigned him a scripture to read in front of the church EVEN AFTER MY HUSBAND NICELY ASKED THE LEADER NEVER TO MAKE HIM DO THAT, we went one more week and we didn't go back. It's very embarrassing to my husband. So I think he's latched onto this water for sacrament issue as a way to justify not going. He's stopped praying with me about the whole thing. Last night he says he doesn't want the missionaries back. Says they make him feel angry and that it must be from Satan. Well then how does it make sense that it makes me feel happy? And the kids?

Thank you Tovarisch and ChosenFrozen for your encouragement. Sorry I disappeared on you. I was just so shocked at my husband's response to church I didn't know what to say. He is totally freaked out that they use water for communion. I don't really care, I agree with the missionaries that it is the remembrance that is important, not the water or wine or juice. Things were going really well until he went to the men's meeting. He seems to feel pressured and not ready to be a part of a priesthood and resisting the whole process because of it. I'm now at a loss and don't know what to do. He started us on this whole journey and is now baling when I was ready to move forward. I'm scared of dividing the family. Ugh. We met with the missionaries again today and he argued with them a little bit, but not as badly as last time. He invited them back, but he's being kind of grumpy about it. We'll see what happens.

We'll actually be visiting for the first time tomorrow morning. I think we too will take it slow, since we already have kids, don't want to rush it. They have a lot to do with us looking for a place to fit. There have been a lot of questions running through our minds and a lot of it has to do with the death of our son. We have had some really strange feedback scripturally from many groups, much uninvited I might add. Everyone seems to have a reason for why your baby dies. My favorite is that it was God's judgment for us being remarried. We seriously studied and just don't see how it would be God's will for us to separate or divorce in God's name. We also didn't like the idea that an innocent child would be sent to hell, as many churches believe, if you were not part of their church. I guess it's circumstances such as ours that bring out the tougher doctrines that different churches believe. So it's been through much prayer and heartache that we have become open to the LDS church. We'll see what happens tomorrow. I am also 32. It's wonderful that you and your fiancee are getting this settled before you marry. :)

It would be so nice to have more to read! Our local library has a lot of mainline Christian books, but pretty much nothing else. It's been a while, though, so I should check. Maybe I could find the books you suggested on Amazon. tovarisch, how did you come to this point in considering conversion? It's a little sticky for us. For instance, my mom HATES Mormons, though I don't know why, they've never done anything to her but be nice. But she was here when the missionaries stopped by and she's freaking out. Also, we'd most likely lose most of our friends because they'd consider us "lost." So we're not taking this lightly. We just can relate to the testimony of Joseph Smith in what he said about looking at all the different churches and thinking that surely God had another, better way. I also find it hard to go along with churches that can't manage to get their own children and young people to attend. I know the LDS church has imperfect people like any other, but we're just getting a lot more answers there than we are from other places.

Update: We had expected the missionaries to call first, but at about 8:30 last night they surprised us. Had a wonderful visit with them and they answered a lot of questions. So nice that they want to spend their time talking about THEIR faith, rather than putting down others. That is part of what we were looking for. Thank you everyone for the welcome! We are now busy reading the literature they gave us.

Hello everyone! Just joined lds.net today. My husband and I are thinking very seriously about converting and I thought I'd just take a look at what everyone is saying around here. Yesterday we requested a visit from the missionaries. Haven't heard back yet and are looking forward to their call. We also chatted with some missionaries online yesterday, which was pretty cool. We have a bunch of questions that we're looking forward to talking about. But we do know a lot about the basic beliefs because we've had so many LDS friends over the years that were gracious and helpful in answering our nosiness. What I find aggravating is that I'm trying to find answers from Mormons online, but I mostly find stuff from ex-Mormons or mainline denominations trying to put the church down. Mostly I'd like to get started getting to know some people. We live very rurally, so even when we are a part of a church, I'm sure it will be very small. Happy to meet you and thanks for reading!