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Momto5, it can be a little dauntin going to preisthood sometimes. It's also fun, but you know men can be too serious for our own good sometimes. Maybe your husband is a bit worried about what kind of new responsabilities he'd be taking on as a preisthood holder. You might want to ask him if that's it. They might not have explained the idea of 'callings' correctly, or he might feel like he's not sure if he'd be good at it or know what to do. (We help new members to learn things a bit at a time, and Heavenly Father really does help you to accomplish new tasks if you ask him. The growth is at your own pace.) I remember I had a good friend who had converted and then become less active when she learned she might be asked to give a talk in church. Public speaking is really tough for some people. Don't know what to tell you about using water instead of wine other than to pray and ask if it's okay? If the promise we make when we take the sacrement is more important than the tools.

Hi. Shiloh. I`m Dave, nice to see I`m not the only new person here. I try to write too, but most days it`s tough. But I`m working on it.

Thank you guys very, VERY much. You've given me some hope and a lot to think about. You even made me laugh, which I didn't expect. This place is really a blessing. I'm glad I found it.

I know what Momto5 and Tovarich mean about worrying you might lose some friends. I was a bit worried myself when I converted. I was 21 (all those years ago) and my mom was very anti-Mormon at first. But after the Missionaries had come over a couple times for lessons and I'd asked them to sit down for dinner with us, she realized they were just regular guys like most of the ones I went to school with. A lot of people don't know much about Mormons, or what they think they know is mistaken, so they worry about you getting caught up in something strange. But we're pretty normal. Most of my friends and coworkers aren't members, and we still go out on the weekends or have BBQs and bonfires or go to a sportsbar and watch the game. They know I don't drink and they're all okay with that. Don't worry too much about having to find a whole new circle of friends. Everyone does at first, but most of the time their worries were groundless. Your friends still love to hang out and laugh with you even when you're sober. (You can always tell them they're not losing a buddy, they're gaining a designated driver.)

My wife and I were married in the temple , but have been separated for 5 years now. We've put off divorce for visa reasons, but plan on divorcing this year. I can see myself possibly falling in love again someday, but I was burned so badly that I don't know if I'll ever want to marry again. And I'm leaving this relationship basically with nothing but the clothes on my back, so even if I did want to remarry someday I doubt I'd be able to financially support a family. So if I don't marry and am not sealed to anyone, I 'm assuming I can't enter the Celestial Kingdom. So is there really a point in my staying active in the Church? I know I can be a tool for Heavenly Father to bless the lives of others, but am I effectively cutting myself off from Him if I choose to stay single?

Hi folks, I just signed on to this site today. I'm originally from Ohio in the USA, but I've been living in Northern Japan for the last nine years teaching Jr high English. I converted 25 yrs ago (Wow, has it been that long?) and served my mission here in Japan. I love to cook, work with my hands, and practice martial arts. I hope to find some more LDS friends here because they're a bit scarce here. But the good news is that our Branch is getting missionaries starting this month for the first time in 8 years. Booyah!!