kevman91

Thanks everyone for your replies. It's nice to see how other people have made it work. 1. My parents got engaged after 3 months and have been married for 24 years now so I don't think 4 months is a problem especially considering we still would be dating for much longer. 2. Because I live with my parents I have been able to save several thousand dollars also while still being debt free (13 an hour is a lot of money when your only expenses are tithing, phone, gas and insurance). I do have that. I have looked in Provo and housing is cheap. She and I have talked some more and I think we will do the long distance thing for a while just to make sure before going all in. If after a little while we decide we want to pursue it we can since I will have saved more money by then. We decided that if we do decide to get married, she will go to school part time and work full time. With 2 full time paychecks we should be able to do it. I know people who are doing it on less and are students, although I don't know if they are living on debt. I know lots of people who are doing that also. I agree also that being married we would get a lot more pell grant money etc. Thanks everyone again for your advice. If anyone has stories of how they made it work as newlyweds still in college I'd love to hear them.

Hello everyone. This is my first post on the forums but i've visited and read threads several times and have found it to be a great community. I came looking for advice on a situation that i'm sure many of you have faced before. A girl and I have been dating about 4 months now but is leaving after christmas to attend BYU. We have started discussing marriage and we both feel comfortable about it. We are both returned missionaries abd temple worthy. My only problem/concern is how to manage the finances. She wants me to move to Utah and I would like to. I am planning on doing my degree all online and have been paying for it by working fulltime and living with my parents who dont charge me rent. We both have 0 student loan debt (she got a 2 year all tuition payed scholorship) and our starting our junior year but she has a car payment. I have a good job making 13$ an hour. By moving and getting married it will drain most of my savings, ill have to make less money since im sure I wont make 13$ in Utah and ill need to start paying room/board. Im just scared about providing I guess. She will only be working part time and now be doing all loans for her degree. What have people done in the past in these situations? Do we suck it up both do our degrees on loans and start our lives in tons of debt? What if we have a kid and she doesnt finish her degree? Now we are down a part time income have debt and an extra expense. Should she not get her degree and work fulltime also so we can stay debt free? Its a hard decision because we both want her to have a degree and to start a family right away but obviously some sacrifices need to be made. I know ultimatly through prayer and fasting we will have to make a decision but i'm just hoping their are some couples who had a similar situation who can shed some light on the situation. I appreciate all and any advice. Thanks!