Ok I had an account on here before but now i dont remember my username so I created a new one. Haha! Anyway thats not what I wanted to tell you guys about. I have recently ended a relationship with this guy I was dating for about a year and I have been trying to ignore him completely like the bishop said to but I don't think thats a great idea since he doesn't really have people he can talk to. I mean he has family but he doesn't like talking with them because they are very negative and are always criticizing the things he chooses to do. Ive been pretty comfortable with my life back in single mode but at the same time I find myself wanting him back but I think that its only because I miss being in a relationship with someone in general. It doesn't really help that he still wants to be friends. I do too but it makes it really complicated and awkward when he does come over and talk. I've been told I'm too nice and I can't think of a way that wouldn't hurt his feelings too badly. Plus, a few of the reasons that I didn't want to date him anymore are: 1- I couldn't handle the emotional baggage he had with his PTSD, TBI, the anger, depression, saying he was suicidal both times before I tried to break up with him (with him knowing how my father died that was hurtful in itself); stuff like that (I understand that he has it but thats completely different from being able to deal with it. 2- Every other day I would come home angry and saddened because he would take his problems out on me by being angry at my suggestions of how or why a person did what they did on the road or at work etc; trying to give the 'wrong doer' the benefit of the doubt. 3- We weren't on the same level spiritually. Plus I had asked heavenly father in prayer after pondering about the relationship with him if he was someone I was going to be happy with and I felt that I wasn't going to be as happy with him as I could be with someone else. So I went through with breaking up with him. 4- (this may sound ridiculous but its a deal breaker for me) He was allergic to cats and I had grown up with two myself and had always planned on having two in my own family. And, I'm not much of a dog person. I don't have anything against dogs but I'm really a cat person. Does this all make me a bad person? I know that's a really stupid question to ask but I really want to know! Please ask if you feel that you don't have enough information to give your advice! Much appreciated! ~hugs~
