March05

ihms1234, at the moment my marriage is about gone. Not for my lack of trying. I noticed above some of what you have said sounding familiar. My recommendation, is to find one thing first to focus on. Sex, pornography, Priesthood, speak to bishop, marriage etc... You have many choices. Pray about this. I too would beg for intercourse to satisfy my wants. This created resentment from my wife which is a ticking time bomb. I may have learned too late that for good sex, you have to take care of her first. If your getting most of the pleasure, she will feel left out after a while. You are not a coward, Heavenly Father still loves you. I hope some this can be of help.

A few weeks ago I mentioned my marriage and situation. Unfortunately, my wife and I have decided to go different ways as of the present. We will attempting to be apart. Space away from one another then if things are meant to be, then will file for separation. For now, she will be staying at the house with our children. I am not sure where I will be staying but most likely I will be staying around some of her family (my family is out of state). She told me that this is probably the best situation for us. Because of my love for her I can say that she is right. Please keep each one of us in your prayers Brothers and Sisters and let us remember our Savior Jesus Christ. Thanks everyone, March05

Thanks for reading, we have gone to a psychologist and therapist both together and individually. She has a prescription for a little over a year and it has helped. From my perspective a lot of resentment towards me is the big obstacle that has troubled her for a long time. I am usually not the type to find faults in her, but she can be critical of me.

Thanks for reading, finishing school and landing a job are on her mind a lot these days. As for a graduation party, that has planned for a long while and we will be celebrating with family, friends, ward members.

Hello, I am new to this so and I am not the most tech. savy kind of fellow. I apologize if I am slow with things here. With that being said I would like to introduce myself. I am 14 years married, been sealed together for 7 years, four great children, busy working two jobs, active in the L.D.S. church and asking for advice. My wife of 14 years has struggled with her own trials and is more or less "through with me" as she said last week. I am very terrified that our marriage could turn to separation or divorce. First thing, I rely on my wife and I feel she that this creates pressure on her. She has had problems with depression(in the past) and co-dependency(towards others). Over the years she has a lot of resentment built up towards me. Her testimony is not very strong these days (though she believes in Christ). She sees me at times in our relationship more as a father than a husband. I have been terrible at noticing this. I try really hard to keep things equal, but I know I am quite naive at times. My focus towards her these days has been too give her some space as she is going through her trials. She is finishing college next month, always a mom, in a very co dependent friendship (she has has challenges with same sex attraction) right now and unhappy with me. Some of her choices besides being co-dependent include drinking alcohol, selfishness and at times putting her friends before family. I really do trust what she says to me and don't feel she is being unfaithful to our marriage when she has been gone all night at times and then returns home. I do feel she is pushing the limits though. It is tough to be faith focused, choosing the right, father to our children, working a lot and seeing my wife struggle. She is in her mid 30ties and married me at the age of 18. It is like she is trying to turn back a clock and be single and in her early 20ties. In the past she has usually refocused back towards us. This time as I stated I am really scared for things. Any feed back, prayers, positive thoughts would be greatly appreciated brothers and sisters. Thank you!