TheMostHappy44

Well, i'm not sure about being clingy but i do appreciate that you posted on this. I guess i'll just have wait and see what the therapist says. :)

Hi everyone! I'm new here and i thought this would be a great place to get some help. I am a 22 year old woman with an abandonment issue. I am so afraid that everyone i love with eventually leave me.. Because i have been left by others before. It all started when i was 12 years old, after my grandfather died. He was very close to me and i found it hard to cope with his loss. From that point i have had serious anxiety over any kind of large change. Such as starting the new school year or moving out of my parents home. Seems a little silly, i know but it has plagued me for over 10 years. It has folded over into my relationships as I've gotten older as well. For the last couple years i haven't had the greatest luck with relationships, since the guys i date stick around for more than a week. (I know that I'm young and have plenty of time to find this thing called Love.) This is after they tell me that they will stick around and want to see where it all goes. Well they disappear and i never hear from them again. I'm in this new relationship with this wonderful man and he cares very deeply for me. I know he is sincere when he tells me that he wants a relationship, but i can't help but not believe him. We've been together about two weeks and yes i know its still pretty early to determine if it will last. I have a feeling that it will but the anxiety from not hearing much from him during the day freaks me out! I know he's busy with work and sometimes forgets to text back and such.. Ugh.. I really need to trust the Lord more but i can't help but wait for the phone call, text message or the in person talk that he's done. I've always been afraid of those i love leaving me.. One day i want to not worry whether this guy will stick around or not.. I'm going to be going to a therapist to see if they can help me with this issue.. Any advice you could give would be great! :)