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IMO, it doesn't work. I usually find that the one offering to go to "yours" if you go to "theirs" first, never really keeps their word; there's always excuses to not follow through. M. I think you are right. Ive gone to several other services with the understanding that someone would be coming to my service. Never worked. They always bailed.

Thank you all for your comments. Its interesting to see how some of you have had the same concerns as I, while others are taking the 'faith' approach. After thinking about this more, and having a great talk with the wife, we both feel that our biggest concern about this not the money, but rather the fear of driving this girl further away from the church instead of nearer to it. Sometimes sharing the gospel can be like trying to feed a squirrel. You just gotta take it slow, be consistent, and not make any sudden movements. One unexpected move will definitely chase it away, unlikely to return. The other thing that we thought of yesterday is the feeling of taking away from the calling of missionaries. It was interesting to think of all the sacrifices missionaries make to fulfill their responsibilities. Not only are the sacrificing and working hard, but we sometimes forget that they are set apart for missionary work. Sending my wife out do basically do their job I feel is a little insulting to missionaries. I feel like it is our responsibility to plant the seed and participate in the missionary work, not necessarily to take it over. The wife is going to the temple today to think things over and make her decision together. If she comes home and says she still feels like she should go, Im not one to argue with God. Thanks again for your comments!

Hi Folks, Im new on this forum and am hoping to get some feedback about a situation. My wife and I live in Utah. She has a an old high school non member friend that has since moved to Alabama. Last Septemberish, she tried to introduce the gospel to her. They exchanged emails, phone calls, and a BOM was given. This was a HUGE step for my wife to make. She hasnt always been so confident in her beliefs, so needless to say, I was extremely proud of her for making the attempt to share the gospel. Unfortunately, the friend wasnt receptive. . . at all. Making me even more proud of her, my wife set a goal for herself. Not being one to give up on someone, she decided she would work hard to prepare herself to try and share the gospel again with her. Her plan was to read the ENTIRE standard works before April general conference. She decided this would help her be more receptive to the spirit, build her testimony and help her answer any gospel related questions her friend might have. Well, time has gone by and we are quickly approaching April. Im happy to announce that she has in fact finished her reading goal. She has grown so much during this time and is now an incredibly spiritual person. She has come a LONG ways since our courtship. I couldnt be more proud of her. Just yesterday she called her friend and told her of her intentions to fly out and see her. Not wanting to drop a bomb on her, she told her friend that her intention was more than just a trip to catch up and hang out. The wife told her she wanted to take her to general conference and talk further about the church. Once again, the invitation to learn more about our beliefs was not well received. Her friend told her she is welcome to come out but it is unlikely they will attend general conference together. My wife offered to attend her church in exchange for attending general conference together. Her friend was still unwilling to commit to that. With that knowledge, my wife is still wanting to make the trip. This is where the 700 bucks comes in. Thats how much its going to cost for a weekend trip. Airfare, car rental, etc. We dont make a lot of money. 700 dollars is a lot for us. I want to be supportive of her efforts, but I have a hard time spending the money on the trip when I dont see it being all that productive. I have been a missionary, and of course ran into many people this stubborn. I just dont see the signs of this going anywhere right now. It doesnt seem to be the right time. So I ask you this. . .how can show my faith, support my wife, while at the same time be sensible? I NEED some input .....please! -TA