ANSWER TO counsel vs. commandment, FROM A LDS TEACHER: I was teaching the youth about dating nonmembers, and a gave this quote: “Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating. … Therefore, this warning comes with great emphasis. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless. A girl may say, ‘Oh, I do not intend to marry this person. It is just a “fun” date.’ But one cannot afford to take a chance on falling in love with someone who may never accept the gospel”. Our Heavenly Father wants you to date young men who are faithful members of the Church, who will be worthy to take you to the temple and be married the Lord’s way. Don’t settle for less than what the Lord wants you to be. Ezra Taft Benson, “To the Young Women of the Church,” Ensign, Nov 1986 There were two people who opposed it, one was a a girl who was dating nonmember and the other was a leader counselor who married a nonmenber. The leader counser said that it is not a commandment, it is ONLY a counsel. Then I said, that the ``LORD WANTS´´ is a commandment. She then said, that commandments are only those in the temple interview. Then I asked her if they asked her in the temple inteview if she stores food. She said no, because to store food is a counsel, not a commandment. Then we opened to this quote: How often do we say, “Yes, I will obey the commandment to store food and to help others, but just now I have neither the time nor the money to spare; I will obey later”? Oh, foolish people! While we procrastinate, the harvest will be over and we will not be saved. Now is the time to follow Abraham’s example; now is the time to repent; now is the time for prompt obedience to God’s will. Spencer W. Kimball, “The Example of Abraham,” Ensign, Jun 1975 Here President kimball said: commandment to store food. So, she then kept herself quiet with an angry face. I´m not that kind of teacher who likes to make students feel bad, but unfortunately I had to do that in order to teach correct commandments of dating nonmembers to everybody. Although it didn´t commented in the class, it come to my mind the following: The proud do not receive counsel or correction easily. (See Prov. 15:10; Amos 5:10.) Defensiveness is used by them to justify and rationalize their frailties and failures. (See Matt. 3:9; John 6:30–59.) Ezra Taft Benson, “Beware of Pride,” Ensign, May 1989