StarfleetDad

I really appreciate all the feedback to my question, even the one about my "being spiteful." I can see that I look spiteful on the one hand. On the other, she is attractive and could easily find a better man to be sealed to... if that was her only option. If she holds to dilusions that we will be better after death, what happens when it is refused beyond the veil? (I love her and she loves me. That is not in question. It is the day to day living that is eroding our compassion for each other. We make better friends then spouses. I just don't want to hold her back in either this life or the next) What happens to her grown son and my grown children if they are proxy sealed to a refused proxy marital seal later? I look forward to performing the sealing ordinance for my grandparents. They were made for each other. My parents, however, were divorced. I know that they will never accept it so I will not perform it... and from what I gather, that means I cannot be sealed to them either(what about my step mom who is awesome?). Dont get me wrong. Proxy work for my departed family was a huge selling point for my interest in this church (while my old pastor had a fit about what he called, "collecting dead bodies" work), but some of these ordinances seem daunting to a relatively new convert. How does one ask tough questions without looking like they are challenging church doctrine?

I am a convert and havea question. I have been a member for five years. Not long after being baptized, I met a lady in church and we were married but not sealed (I was not eligible for temple as it was less then a year before baptism). Since that time we have had good times and bad (nothing horrendous-just life). We had both been previously married so we knew divorce. Every time being sealed came up, one or the other felt nervous. We are at a point now where we are very likely going to go our seperate ways. She has stated in the past that she would simply be sealed to me after my departure from this mortal coil. I know that I will have the option of refusing to be sealed beyond the veil but I don't even want this to be an option for her. If we can't resolve our differences here, nothing will change later. Is there someone I can contact in the church, or a form to be filed to "block" a sealing from a particular person after I am gone?