Just shy of our one year anniversy due to unavoidable circumstances and ones that could not be easily nor quickly resolved we had to give up our apartment. My in-laws let us move into thier home. It was not just husband and myself either, I had a daughter from my first marriage and was a few months pregnant with our son. We paid my in laws rent, did our own laundry, and took care of our (my) daughter. We also helped with different things around the house and my husband did different tasks at the house so that his father did not have to do them himself.
I think that you need to look at things individually. Not everyone that ends up living with family are slackers, or unable to provide for themselves. Sometimes life deals you a tough hand and you need some help to get through it. I my self am deeply appreciative of the time we were at my in-laws and the bond we were able to develop during that time.
And as a teenager I went to trade school graduated and secured a job in my field. I was only 17 upon graduation of high school. My parents allowed me to live at home. I payed rent, helped with the utilities and was responsible for my own "leisure items". I was able to save enough money to buy my own car with in a few months of starting my first job, at which point I was giving my younger brother rides to and from school every day. Even though I was responsible for myself, and my own things since I was living in my parents home I did have to abide by thier rules.
As for me I am glad I had the support of my parents as a youth and the support of my in laws during a very tough time in our life. It provided a sense of security as well as stability while going through a transitional period in life.
If family members are in need should we really turn our back on them???
signed
Been There and appreciated it...
