I am the wife of a bipolar husband. We got married at 21, and married within 2.5 months of knowing each other. So it was quick. We have been married for 14 years this July, and it has been a tough road.
We almost separated several times, and we didn’t start having kids until I was 30. I am 35 and about to have our second.
Our marriage has had our ups and downs to say the least. Friends lost, family relationships strained and all because of his bipolar.
but we have been married now for 14 years and still together. Sometimes it’s so hard that I get depression from always feeling like I am never good enough or that I can’t ever do anything right.
But then I remember he’s suffering and I have had to learn that it isn’t me. Sure, sometimes it is me or I contribute to it, but I’m not the sole reason he’s mad at me, or gets upset.
The one thing that keeps us together is knowing that no matter how upset we get with each other, marriage takes work for healthy mental couples and so it just takes more work for couples with a spouse with a mental illness.
We all have our ups and downs. But trying to be there for one another with God in our side is a huge relief.
Mom sorry to all those that have divorced from a spouse that has mental illness. I know firsthand (and still do) at how hard and draining it is. Highs are high and lows are very low.
Remember that there is support out there and counseling for both parties.
I don’t know if this helps at all, but I do know the struggle. I got in an argument today over something stupid. Just know God loves you both and with, God, all things are possible. Maybe not a cure for Bipolar, but ways to help cope with it.
