He heard my prayers

[jolee65]

My daughter broke up with her BF the one that controlled everything we worked so hard to get going for our daughter, shes going out west to LDS Business School after all. We didnt have anything to do with the brake up we were shocked to hear about it , I did ask why what happened she said they fought to much and she doesnt want a BF anymore.

My oldest daughter called me up on Friday and said whats going on with Amanda and Bret I didnt think I should be the one that told her so I said why do you ask she said hes leaving all kinds of messages on her myspace(amandas) expressing his undieing love for her and it doesnt matter how far the distance , so now I could see what all the fightings about.

Im very proud of her standing up on her own two feet and following though on her planns to go out west.

when my husband and I found out we did a very quiet high five, lol (she was in the other room) her dad wanted to take all the pics of him(Brett) and her together out of her room she got upset I just looked at him shacking my head no lol.

I also told my oldest daughter to keep her happiness about it to herself, so we just stay off the subject unless she brings it up.

She told me yesterday she had to have a long talk with him about the constent calls and messages that she still wants to be friends but shes to young to be planning a life long relationship with someone.

[ElderJAR]

That's amazing to hear, and I'm so happy for you...I cant imagine the happiness that you're having.

I leave for my mission in exactly one month. My GF and I have been having a lot of disagreements lately...I dont know why. She's such a good member of the church, its just that we have such stark differences. I guess she wants to be dominant or something. She gets upset over the littlest things, and it's so annoying...I dont know how to tell her that I dont want to have anything to do with someone that acts like that with me. Oh well, I'll just write her a letter or an email or something I guess. It's probably better that she go through a little bit of heartbreak right now than a huge one way into the future, do you agree?

[jolee65]

Yes I do agree, I remember your post and its good to learn now then to have regrets later.

Its ok if shes not the one for you and im sure shes a good person, the stress of knowing your leaving soon could be why she acting up so much.

How old is she? could be a maturity issue.

Yes , im excited she was able to open her eyes, she has a big future awaiting her out there.

Do you know where your going on your mission yet?

[ElderJAR]

She's 17...it proabably is a maturity issue...

I wrote her an email telling her that I'm going to be gone for 2 years and that we are going to change a lot. We haven't even been together for 2 years and we've changed a lot. I told her that I'm not going to force her to wait for me and that I couldn't do that to her...that I have the faith that things will work out in our best interest. That God knows us better than we know ourselves, and that I'm going to leave her in God's hands for those 2 years. I told her that over that time she has the amazing opportunity and great responsibility to explore herself as she grows in knowledge and wisdom, and and she may never have that great opportunity ever again.

I'm am going to the Oakland California Mission =)

[jolee65]

Yeah 17 is young there still in between spoiled little girl and young woman. It sounds to me like your handling thing well enough. How does she respond to you when you tell her your not going to ask her to wait does she pout or act like she has some understanding?

California that should be nice for the middle of winter, LOL we have had missionaries here from Arizona walking around in 3ft of snow they have a hard time warming up once there inside. We love San Diego I go down there everytime we go out west, I fell in love with the San Diego Temple from the first time i seen a picture it did take me awhile before I got the chance to see it in person I think it took me 7yrs to get out there.

Is Oakland county north or south?

[ElderJAR]

Oakland is pretty north, it's across the bay from San Fransisco. I also am amazed at the beauty of the San Diego Temple...I want to visit it someday. It still doesn't snow in Oakland though...year round the temperature ranges from mid 40s to mid 70s. I haven't seen her reaction yet...but she wrote me a note today around the same time, and it was pretty much a break-up letter, but it wasn't mean at all, she was very honest and very nice about it, kind of like I was. I saw snow for the 1st time this past spring. I went on a snowboarding trip with my friend to Colorado, and that was lots of fun! Take Care, thank you, and enjoy your snow!

[jolee65]

I heard northern California is alot like Michigan with the trees and all, I hope you can get the chance sometime to get down to San Diego just seeing it appear all of a sudden as your driving down the highway you just get over whelmed I started to tear.

Well im not sure if thats what you really wanted (the break up) but if it is change is difficult for everyone , my daughter is having second thoughts but I just said dont get back together to soon you"ll find neither one of you have changed much, he was arguing with her alot about the distance she got tired of it thats why she broke it off with him, hes playing the we can be good friends and at first I thought that was very grown up but hes using that as a way to see her. Who knows she might be trying to work her way into the seperation process before leaving , lets hope lol.

[ElderJAR]

Yeah, her and I broke up before like around the 4th of July, but she was going through a lot of emotional pain because of it, and I couldn't see her in pain because I care for her, and I wanted to be with her again, so we were together again for another half-year. Right now we're just friends, and I have no hard feelings towards her and she doesnt have any towards me, (at least it doesnt seem like it). She bought me some hot chocolate this morning, and we talked. So things are better than I could have hoped for after breaking up.

[jolee65]

Sounds like you two are handling things very well ,thats always the best way to break up if your going to . Good luck to both of you and if its ment to be then it well. :)