Wife has nowhere to run now, but still wants the divorce...

[Tonya9]

Warm greetings, Brother:

I just read your story and there were tears in my eyes. I cannot imagine the pain

you are going through. Your wife, your kids (to whom you're clearly a GREAT DAD

for what it sounds) a long term marriage and well established solid family life ---

snatched from you and kept from your reach.

Please forgive me if this offends you. It's meant in the spirit of Christian love and

empathy.

I'm a woman, and divorced from a cheatin' non-Mormon spouse, mind you. So

that MIGHT effect my answer.

Bro., so very very sorry to have to say this but : your former wife doesn't

have your moral fiber, spirituality, or commitment to famiy. She just doesn't

Sure you dearly love her and desperatey miss the family life you had. But

to be frank ----she just wasn't into parenthood, marriage, and family like

you are. Your former wife is a "strayer." If she coud flirt around like she

did in secret, hey, she'd do it again if you guys got back together. You

DESERVE a sweetheart who has ALL of your values in the same AMOUNT

as you do.

You live the gospel to the letter; that's obvious. You need time to recover

and heal. After that, go to LDS Hearts.com or LDS Planet and start meeting

ladies who are a good parallel to your values and spiritual commitments.

Make sure they are as fidelity-minded as you are. Your perfect soulmate

is out there, but you need to be cautious. Who ever you find will just

naturally have a love for your kids, too, and though it's not the same

relationship you had as their live-in-dad, you and your new mate can

spend happy quality time with your kids and a full, involved, relationship

with them is entirely possible. It shounds like your are that sort of

dad anyway ----who wants to be involved in everything in his kids'

ives

I wish for all the world I could tell you something else. Your former marriage

is gone. You're a young man and life is too short to spend suffering.

Hey, I'm prayin' for ya dude.

Happy Fathers' Day,

Tonya (Catherine)