StephenK Posted March 9, 2012 Report Share Posted March 9, 2012 Without getting into a long story on my history, I would like to know how do you connect with someone that you yourself have broken and in which there is very little to no trust? I am in a situation where my wife is about to leave me due to my infidelity. I have talked to both the Bishop and her about what happened even though I knew that me talking to them would more than likely turn for the worse as far as the relationship was concerned. Right now I hurt so much that I don't have an appetite, sleep very little, and truly regret my actions. I talked with her last night and she says that she feels at peace with her leaving me, which devastated me. Furthermore, she has told me that she is not attracted to me. She talked with the Bishop last night and he counseled that she set a timeframe to see if things change. She decided 3 months would be the timeframe to work within. Right now I feel like there is a stopwatch ticking down that once it gets to 0, the bomb goes off. Even more painful is that I don't know what to do to gain the trust and connect with her emotionally in such a timespan when the other person is not attracted to you. I really value our relationship and I truly want us to work. I feel that I am in a catch 22 in which I am supposed to connect with someone in 3 months and that person doesn't want to connect with me. I understand her feelings of hurt and why she would think this way. I don't want to do anything to push her away, I just need advice on how to get her closer when she does not want to get close. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 9, 2012 Report Share Posted March 9, 2012 Attraction for a woman is strongly connected to emotional connection. Do the things you did when you were falling in love. Be ridiculously transparent about where you are, where you're going, who you're with, who you've talked to, what you ate for lunch, etc. Be at work or at home, and when you're at home, work at wooing her. Don't worry about the attraction just now. If my husband put his hands on another woman, I would find him repulsive, and it wouldn't have anything to do with his physical appearance. You have to be her friend again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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