Adult Children Living In Parent's Home

[snickersbme]

Just shy of our one year anniversy due to unavoidable circumstances and ones that could not be easily nor quickly resolved we had to give up our apartment. My in-laws let us move into thier home. It was not just husband and myself either, I had a daughter from my first marriage and was a few months pregnant with our son. We paid my in laws rent, did our own laundry, and took care of our (my) daughter. We also helped with different things around the house and my husband did different tasks at the house so that his father did not have to do them himself.

I think that you need to look at things individually. Not everyone that ends up living with family are slackers, or unable to provide for themselves. Sometimes life deals you a tough hand and you need some help to get through it. I my self am deeply appreciative of the time we were at my in-laws and the bond we were able to develop during that time.

And as a teenager I went to trade school graduated and secured a job in my field. I was only 17 upon graduation of high school. My parents allowed me to live at home. I payed rent, helped with the utilities and was responsible for my own "leisure items". I was able to save enough money to buy my own car with in a few months of starting my first job, at which point I was giving my younger brother rides to and from school every day. Even though I was responsible for myself, and my own things since I was living in my parents home I did have to abide by thier rules.

As for me I am glad I had the support of my parents as a youth and the support of my in laws during a very tough time in our life. It provided a sense of security as well as stability while going through a transitional period in life.

If family members are in need should we really turn our back on them???

signed

Been There and appreciated it...

[Annabelli]

Just shy of our one year anniversy due to unavoidable circumstances and ones that could not be easily nor quickly resolved we had to give up our apartment. My in-laws let us move into thier home. It was not just husband and myself either, I had a daughter from my first marriage and was a few months pregnant with our son. We paid my in laws rent, did our own laundry, and took care of our (my) daughter. We also helped with different things around the house and my husband did different tasks at the house so that his father did not have to do them himself.

I think that you need to look at things individually. Not everyone that ends up living with family are slackers, or unable to provide for themselves. Sometimes life deals you a tough hand and you need some help to get through it. I my self am deeply appreciative of the time we were at my in-laws and the bond we were able to develop during that time.

And as a teenager I went to trade school graduated and secured a job in my field. I was only 17 upon graduation of high school. My parents allowed me to live at home. I payed rent, helped with the utilities and was responsible for my own "leisure items". I was able to save enough money to buy my own car with in a few months of starting my first job, at which point I was giving my younger brother rides to and from school every day. Even though I was responsible for myself, and my own things since I was living in my parents home I did have to abide by thier rules.

As for me I am glad I had the support of my parents as a youth and the support of my in laws during a very tough time in our life. It provided a sense of security as well as stability while going through a transitional period in life.

If family members are in need should we really turn our back on them???

signed

Been There and appreciated it...

NBC/Evening News did a series about retirement income and adult children moving back with their parents or children continuing to live with them. The series talked about when people are supposed to be working to build a retirement, they are spending money that they cannot afford on adult children. The report stated that retirement plans are not going to support these people and the outlook of retirement is very grim.

You should look into affordable housing and state assistance when you need help so that your parents will not have to when they retire.

Your parents' generation and your generation do not save money and do not live modestly.

[Alaskagain]

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If family members are in need should we really turn our back on them???

signed

Been There and appreciated it...

Your parents' generation and your generation do not save money and do not live modestly.

Well, I think Snicks' in laws probably do, even if the majority of their generation doesn't. And it sounds like Snicks does, even if the majority of her generation doesn't.

And no, we shouldn't turn our backs on our families. Family members in need should be helped by the family first, then church/charity, then the govt.

[Annabelli]

When my office job was not paying the bills, I took on a part time McJob, and cleaned a self-serve laundry after hours. When I told the kids that I was thinking about getting a real estate license, they rolled their eyes. I was juggling Tupperware on the side too.

I was always worried that I would one day show up in the office wearing my McHat and start dispensing Tupperware lunches while I wiped down the break room.

I had two or three unexpected car repairs and each was about $400. The cost of living was rising and my salary was not.

I never went for a real estate license and I was able to give up the McJob after about 3 or 4 months. I cleaned the laundry for about two years. I eventually got a couple of raises and turned in my Tupperware kit.

There is a rainbow somewhere between poverty( ) and modesty( ).

[snickersbme]

Seriously who do you think you are that you can attempt to act GOD like and be the judge and jury of people that you do not know. I can tell you that my parents, my inlaws, my grandparents, and great grandparents before them as well as my husband and myself live modestly.

Things do happen to people that can not be avoided and it is not due to poor money choices on thier part. Health problems play a huge role in things too.

In closing I have to very honestly say that I am glad it is MY REDEEMER that will be passing judgment on my family, my inlaws, my husband children and myself. I would not want someone who is not promised to be just and fair to judge us. Or to be the one passing judgement on anyone else for that matter.

Just shy of our one year anniversy due to unavoidable circumstances and ones that could not be easily nor quickly resolved we had to give up our apartment. My in-laws let us move into thier home. It was not just husband and myself either, I had a daughter from my first marriage and was a few months pregnant with our son. We paid my in laws rent, did our own laundry, and took care of our (my) daughter. We also helped with different things around the house and my husband did different tasks at the house so that his father did not have to do them himself.

I think that you need to look at things individually. Not everyone that ends up living with family are slackers, or unable to provide for themselves. Sometimes life deals you a tough hand and you need some help to get through it. I my self am deeply appreciative of the time we were at my in-laws and the bond we were able to develop during that time.

And as a teenager I went to trade school graduated and secured a job in my field. I was only 17 upon graduation of high school. My parents allowed me to live at home. I payed rent, helped with the utilities and was responsible for my own "leisure items". I was able to save enough money to buy my own car with in a few months of starting my first job, at which point I was giving my younger brother rides to and from school every day. Even though I was responsible for myself, and my own things since I was living in my parents home I did have to abide by thier rules.

As for me I am glad I had the support of my parents as a youth and the support of my in laws during a very tough time in our life. It provided a sense of security as well as stability while going through a transitional period in life.

If family members are in need should we really turn our back on them???

signed

Been There and appreciated it...