raulrosalez22

I am not dating her because she is cute. even members date other members because they are cute and their relationships fail because of that. I have never dated anybody because she is cute. I almost started dating one super gorgeous girl but I found out stuff that just wouldnt go with me. I dont think I know the "in-love" experience is. Much less I doubt I can figure out how the "love" emotion feels. How do I know I love someone if I have always been caring and respectful for others? How do I know I love one specific person more than the others around me? I am dating her because she seems to be someone of good values, a sincere and nice person. I have known her for more than a year already and until recently is that we started dating. she is honest and caring. I really could care less if she is cute or ugly, rich or poor. lucky me is that she is cute . What really caught me is knowing that her feelings come from her heart and not other desires. Just like you I am not sealed to anybody in my family nor hope that might happen. It is up to me to start that process and create an eternal family. I am not saying it will be with her I dont know since I cant foresee what the future holds for me. I will only remain faithful and aim to do as our Heavenly Father wishes for me to do.

hahaha funny! I came here to seek some guidance on the same matter =P

Haven't you considered a mission before anything else? my new advice is that you hit the mission field before anything else. It would prepare you better for the upcoming challenges and to help you find a sweet daughter of Heavenly Father.

Some but not all. I recently started dating a girl outside of my religion. Not sure what she is into since we have never really talked about the religion issue. It is true, you marry who you date. I am running the risk of being dragged down by her since we have different values and I am going to try and teach her some of my values. She doesnt smoke, drink, or do drugs but she does swear a lot. She has made mistakes in the past and she has told me about them. But I dont think I am someone to judge her for her mistakes. I am a convert and I also had done mistakes. Many of my friends dissaprove of me dating a non-member and advice me to date a member of the church. And I have dated member but for some reason or another things dont work out. It is just a weird situation. If it is a true feeling of love what you have for her and she feels the same then go for it. but beware of the dangers because there are many.

wow this is getting intense =) good reading though =P

How are we going to check in our progress? is there going to be a new thread on the forums? chat? or should we follow this thread?

I have been slacking off lately and this might be just the thing =) count me in!

ok x 3

so how can I help in prayer? Every time someone asks me to pray for them I always ask for their full name. what is her full name and the child's name? I dont know if I can go for the screen name. if you dont want ti to be seen by others send it as a message.

Your kids might be really suffering. I know trust me. I have a story on that. E-mail me if you want to know [email protected]

I dont know how to use that game! ahhhh!

Hello Shadowhunter. I am glad you started reading the BoM and more for knowing that you want to know if it is true or not. I converted when I was 19 and before that I decided to remain religious less because I didnt believe any doctrine at all. I was curious though about what was true and what was not. I investigated the church for quite a few months. But I took too long because I didnt put much of my effort to know if it was true or not. Back then I cared less what the answer was. But after I started attending and hearing the testimonies from other members I wanted to know it on my own. I read the BoM and the Bible on my own more often. And when I prayed with a sincere heart I received my answer. Just so you know it took me a while to recognize it since I didnt know how it was going to feel. I didnt feel anything I received, what we call, a personal revelation about the church. and I decided to take it as my answer. I got baptized and confirmed a member of the church. Then months later I got a confirmation that my revelation was true. I did the right thing and I feel like I was awarded with that confirmation. Wish you have a good day. =)

ok... I am not a kid and I have never been married. But one thing I will tell you. I am the only member of the church in my family and it hurts me when I see other boys, close to my age (21), that sit together with their families. One time at sacrament a speaker was talking about Families and the temples. I decided to sit at the very back of sacrament because I felt left alone. While sitting back there I had my eyes on this particular family. A boy, 20 yrs old, was sitting next to his dad(about my dad's age). While the talk was going on I would see these two individuals talking and agreeing on what the speaker was saying. That brought a memory of me and my dad talking about the gospel. No we were not agreeing, we were arguing and debating. It wasnt a good memory at all. I decided to not pay attention to them for a moment and listen to the talk. I heard something about eternal families and how it is possible to maintain your family together for all eternity. That kept me thinking for a while on how my family would never be together. I will tell you something it is a hearthbraker and it is really painful. I would have loved to see that it was my dad that baptized me and not some other man. I am thankful to my friend who baptized me but I have always thought how wonderful would it be if instead of my friend my dad was there to receive me right after my baptism. It didnt happen and nothing will change that. Dont let your kids go through that. If you know you dont deserve your temple recommend as of right now, then start working to deserve it in the near future. Start working on being a worthy priesthood holder. If you can prevent your family from dissolving then work on it dang it! mine is dissolving. but that is my parents problem. I have done what I can, they dont want to work things out. About your marriage I can only tell you want thing. and now I am not married. but I had a similar situation. After me and my girlfriend (who I also loved so much) broke it up when I left to college, I started talking to this other girl. A girl that has liked me ever since my junior year in high school. I decided to give it a try with this girl, well why not she totally loved me. so we dated and then soon went into a relationship. We were "the cutest couple" around. I recall thinking about my ex while I was going out with my new gf. I would think how could I have loved someone so much and then she would leave all of the sudden. I thought it was not fair enough for me doing most of the effort for the relationship and she doing nothing at all. And I promised to myself that I wouldnt allow that to happen to me ever again. So I did I kind of hardened my heart just to "not fall in love" with anybody else. But that really blinded me. I became really boring to the point where not even I would want to hang out with my self. lol but even though I was like that my gf would still hang out with me. She would love me like no one else did. I was confused as of why she was still with me. She knew me pretty much and always wanted to help me cheer up. It was so much love she was giving me that I couldnt take it anymore. I was doing to her what my ex did to me. I felt I didnt deserve such a lovely girl and started thinking that she would do better with someone worthy of her. but not me. I decided to brake up with her. I used such lame excuses when she asked me why. I told her it was not her it was me - Classic, she didnt believe it. I was looking at other girls - She knows I am not that kind of guy. I wanted some time - She would give it to me but did not want to break up. She annoyed me and I felt I was wasting my time - Bingo that did the trick. after that I listened to her cry for about tow hours on the phone or until her cellphone died. she wanted to work out something. something where she could change to work things out. she was willing to adjust to me. I still said no. I wanted her to be free from me... to forget me. when her cellphone died I realized that I had done the biggest mistake of my life. We didnt talk after that. I dont know how many months later I was talking to a friend on the phone. I was walking out on the street when all of the sudden the call just drops. so I wait for her to call again. and there it goes, I receive a call but I didnt bother to check the caller ID. So I answer and resume where my friend and I left off. She asks me what I was doing I was a little puzzled because I had told my friend I was walking down the street to get something from the store. And then asks me how have I been all this time. I responded "I have been good, how about you?" and she tells me that she has been thinking about that night. So I was so confused about what she was talking about that I checked the caller ID. I still had my her, who now is my ex, on my contact list. So I say that it was good to know she was doing good too. She told me "Raul, I know what you told me last time was a lie. I just want to know the real reason for you to brake up with me." I was shocked but I decided to tell her the truth then. which was the first thing I told her when we were braking up. "it was not you... it was me" I explained to her what my situation was, how I was feeling towards her, how I didnt love her as much as she loved me or she wished me to love her. that I decided to take the quickest exit. She got upset and then told me "So then why didnt you tell me... I have always been willing to work something out. We are a young and still learning. I thought you might have had an Idea of how much I loved you, BUt now I see you dont know how much I really loved you." Even after months had passed she was still there. thinking about me and what she could have done to prevent that from happening. I had the same opportunity as her to prevent it from happening and to make our relationship better. But I decided to remain with my arms crossed and do nothing about it and take the quick and safe exit. She is now gone from my life but the memories of her remain in my heart. That was 3 years ago and to date I remain without a gf not because of fear of getting hurt. but because I am afraid I can hurt someone else and not being able to fix things. If you can work it out then do it without wasting anymore time.

Thanks I was looking for stuff like this =)

Hey you made me remember the time I was asked for the first time to give a talk. It was about friendship and I remember I procrastinated until Saturday Night just before I had to give my talk. I allowed the spirit to guide me, pretty much because I figured there was no way I could do it without inspiration, and even less with such a short time! lol I dont remember what I talked about (I wrote it somewhere but I dont know where) but it was a pretty good talk. everybody liked it and even the kids were listening to me =D I told a small story from the bible and how that related to us. then I gave my testimony about friendship and that I considered Jesus Christ to be our best friend. that is all I can remember now. but seek the guidance of the spirit! it will impress you how much it can tell you. and try to share your testimony more often. I do it every 1st Sunday of the month. I am not going to lie I feel so strong and I always think about what I will be saying just before I go to the podium. but at the moment I am there I freak out and sometimes I start shaking a little. and I completely forget what I was going to talk about. But I just let the Spirit remind me what I know is true and how that keeps me strong. then at the end I feel great hahaha