ElderJAR

things are good. We're still not together, and it's kind of pointless im my mind since I'm leaving in like 2 weeks, plus it would just bring me more drama. We're still friends tho, like we went out for lunch and skipped some stones in the lake at the park, but like it said in my letter when I got my mission call, I have to leave all of my "personal affairs" behind. I baptized someone yesterday...it was my 1st time, and it was in spanish...and she had a really long weird name...and the water was kind of cold, but it was great, it only took one try, I was so happy for her.

My heart is beginning to hurt...I miss being with my GF...it didn't hurt like this at first. Any advice? I think that I'd be pretty dumb to get back together just for me to leave soon. I'm going to have to live by faith I guess...I cant look into the future, which is probably why I keep trying to hold on to the past. I bet Heavenly Father knows something that I dont that's great about my future...he loves me...and I guess I'll have to live by faith. "and the just shall live by faith"...I guess no one said it would be easy.

Thank you so much for the complement. I am actually headed over to Oakland, California...where the homosexual people are protesting against the church...hah, so it'll be a fun time :)

well, if I did, it's one of my rare moments, haha, but thank you :)

Man...I dont know what to say really...it probably was a bad idea to read her journal, but you can't undo that now. She realized what she did was a mistake and she talked to the bishop and things straightened out, I assume...so if she's past it I wouldn't see why to dwell on it...but its a fact that it did happen, and that may hurt, but she's human and is entitled to making mistakes. Just to update the people of this thread...my girlfriend and I did break-up this week, and it is for the best. We argued way too much, and didn't understand eachother. We're still friends, so I'm glad that things worked out for us...it'll be interesting how things turn out when I return from my mission.

Yeah, her and I broke up before like around the 4th of July, but she was going through a lot of emotional pain because of it, and I couldn't see her in pain because I care for her, and I wanted to be with her again, so we were together again for another half-year. Right now we're just friends, and I have no hard feelings towards her and she doesnt have any towards me, (at least it doesnt seem like it). She bought me some hot chocolate this morning, and we talked. So things are better than I could have hoped for after breaking up.

Oakland is pretty north, it's across the bay from San Fransisco. I also am amazed at the beauty of the San Diego Temple...I want to visit it someday. It still doesn't snow in Oakland though...year round the temperature ranges from mid 40s to mid 70s. I haven't seen her reaction yet...but she wrote me a note today around the same time, and it was pretty much a break-up letter, but it wasn't mean at all, she was very honest and very nice about it, kind of like I was. I saw snow for the 1st time this past spring. I went on a snowboarding trip with my friend to Colorado, and that was lots of fun! Take Care, thank you, and enjoy your snow!

She's 17...it proabably is a maturity issue... I wrote her an email telling her that I'm going to be gone for 2 years and that we are going to change a lot. We haven't even been together for 2 years and we've changed a lot. I told her that I'm not going to force her to wait for me and that I couldn't do that to her...that I have the faith that things will work out in our best interest. That God knows us better than we know ourselves, and that I'm going to leave her in God's hands for those 2 years. I told her that over that time she has the amazing opportunity and great responsibility to explore herself as she grows in knowledge and wisdom, and and she may never have that great opportunity ever again. I'm am going to the Oakland California Mission =)

I dont remember the story exactly, but there was this asian man that was in the military or something and learned about the church, and was about to go home (maybe to korea or something) and he told President Hinckley that his family would proabably disown him and stuff and President asked him "are you willing to make such a sacrifice?" The man asked President Hinckley "Is it true?" and President Hinckley responded "yes", and the man with tears in his eyes replied "then what else matters?". A lot of times when there are problems like this then it may be a good idea to say to yourself..."if it's true, then what else matters?" If there's no other way to fix it...dont let her hold your eternal salvation down.

That's amazing to hear, and I'm so happy for you...I cant imagine the happiness that you're having. I leave for my mission in exactly one month. My GF and I have been having a lot of disagreements lately...I dont know why. She's such a good member of the church, its just that we have such stark differences. I guess she wants to be dominant or something. She gets upset over the littlest things, and it's so annoying...I dont know how to tell her that I dont want to have anything to do with someone that acts like that with me. Oh well, I'll just write her a letter or an email or something I guess. It's probably better that she go through a little bit of heartbreak right now than a huge one way into the future, do you agree?

thanks for the advice...she ended up not getting mad over that, lol...but she does get mad over the littlest things.

43 days left 'til I go on my mission. 33 days 'til I go to the temple. I went to the movies with my gf on friday, and watched high school musical 3 (better than I thought it would be...it was actually good in my opinion) things have been really good between us, and I know that she's going to be mad at me today, because she needed some chips for a club meeting at school and I forgot because I was trimming some bushes today and also helped bring food to a member's home. Who else on earth would get mad over a bag of chips? I feel bad for forgetting, but I know she wont care...she's an extremist and will think that I forgot about her etc...and I need to know what to do because I have to pick her up in less than an hour!

Hey, I just turned 19, and I am going to serve a mission...ever since I was 14 years old I had many questions...about the church...the book of mormon...etc...as you gain a testimony of the book or mormon, your desire to serve a mission will increase so much. I read the book of mormon 4 times, and I believed that it was true...I couldnt really disprove it...plus, I did feel that it was right in my heart...but I wanted more. There's this really neat book called "The Book of Mormon Another Witness of Jesus Christ: ON TRIAL" and basically it puts the book of mormon in a court case, and there are lawyers that throw every accusation that you could imagine at the book of mormon, but the book of mormon disproves each accusation. It's a pretty thick comic book but it's worth the read...you could probably find it on amazon.com...I highly recommend it...when you finish the book, you realize that there's no possible way that a guy with a 3rd grader's education could have written such a book that cannot be disproved and has changed the lives of so many people on the earth today. Good luck with your testimony...if anything you can just message me any doubts that you may have because I'm sure that theyve gone through my thoughts as well. Good Luck!

Thank you everyone for the great advice. I will ponder and pray on all of that. I think I'll tell her that I will be leaving her in God's hands for those 2 years...I'll be sure to let her know that she needs to explore herself during that time, and that she might never get another chance to do that. Of course we'll write eachother...and 2 years is a long time...we'll see what transpires from this, but I'm sure that whatever happens, it will be for the best whether we stay together or have our lives going in different directions. Thanks again to everyone...I have pondered everyone's advice, and feel free to give me more! Thanks again!

I am going to the California Oakland Mission!

Hey, this is kind of a loaded issue...if I can even call it an issue. I have a dear girlfriend whom I love, and I am leaving on my mission in less than 2 months. I know that she will wait for me...we have been dating for about 1 and a half years. We love eachother...but I dont really think that we have much in common and neither does she...and she gets upset with me a lot over so many little things. She has gone through a lot emotionally, and I want to always be there for her. Her family moved away to Kentucky, but she wanted to stay here to finish high school and keep her scholarship, and her parents asked if she could stay with my family, so she's also been living under the same roof as me for a couple of months...which proabably wouldn't be recommendable, but she is paying rent and we have rules that we have to follow when were both in the house. I know what relationships need to work right...you need proper communication, and when she's upset she doesn't communicate...its always the silent treatment which gets us nowhere. No communication leads to no understanding. My patience has been tried very much, and I hoped that perhaps I would grow from this...but I always have President Hinckley's voice in my head saying that in the over 60 years that he was married to his wife, he does not recall ever quarreling with her. We're very happy a lot of the time, we like to joke around and have fun and we just enjoy being in eachother's company, I'm just afraid if there's no substance, and there's already quarrelling...how far will it go...or are we just leading ourselves on? We have the church in common, and we love being together, have shared a LOT of nice experiences together, both love eachother...that's pretty much what we have in common... I know that she loves me so much...in her mind there is no one else in the world for her but me...I'm just afraid I guess...because I know that I love her, but I want our relationship to have more substance. I dont think that if you love someone that you get upset with them over every little thing. I look for reasons to NOT get upset with her, and for her it seems to be the other way around. She just confuses me because she's very fragile and very emotional...I know what's inside of her but a lot of times she doesn't show it. When I get married, I want to be happy for eternity...I dont want quarreling...if there's no substance, the relationship will be very unstable. So yeah any suggestions???? I pretty much just vomitted my thoughts out onto the computer, sorry for rambling.

thank you everyone for your suggestions. It has been a good day for me and hopefully they'll keep coming and never cease.

What are some things that people can do to occupy their minds and detract their mind when they are being tempted with pornography? I guess I pretty much know the answers, but they aren't as obvious when you're being tempted.