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  1. Do you feel that dreams have real meaning?

    in General Discussion

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    Bubbaman,

    LDS.net is just of group of strangers, a lot who happen to be LDS. I recommend you go to the temple if you are endowed, and after a session, sit and ponder and pray in the Celestial room. If you have faith that God will answer your prayer, sit in there and pray about your divorce. You may even feel your father in there with you. The Lord with answer your prayers in the Celestial room more clearly than anywhere else. Sit and give him some time. This has ALWAYS worked for me. You may have to frame your questions smaller than, "Should I get a divorce" to "is it okay for me to take my kids and I away from my alcoholic wife, or should I stay with her for a while?"

    I find that in this forums, there are different experiences and thoughts that may help you, and people that may cause you to doubt. Go to God. We all can be deceived.

    And as far as the person with freaky nightmares of sleep paralysis, science explains all of that away. But for those who have been through it and have seen the evil spirit in their room, and have cast the spirit out in the name of Jesus Christ, we don't need science or skeptics to tell us we were wrong. It happens to lots of people and I can testify that it is real. There is sleep paralysis, but it is not the same as that creepy, dark presence.

    I agree with what you said...but there is also some value in throwing these questions out to the world ...sometimes you get some good responses.

    That doesn't mean that the internet is making my life decisions for me.

  4. Do you feel that dreams have real meaning?

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    I'm in the process of getting a divorce. I found out that my wife was having an affair. We have 3 kids and have been married 8 years.

    Filing for a divorce was the most difficult decision of my life...mostly because I hate to do anything that causes pain to my children.

    My wife has had problems with alcoholism for her whole life, and she is not dealing with it.

    The problem has been actually getting much worse over the years. I hate to imagine how it would be to still be with her in another 10 yrs.

    I had a dream a few nights ago. In it, I spoke with my father...who has been deceased since '93. I asked him in this dream if I was doing the right thing. He said nothing but just nodded his head "yes".

    This dream haunts me. I usually don't even remember my dreams.

    Should I give any meaning to this dream?

  6. Mixing the races..?

    in LDS Gospel Discussion

    Posted

    White guy checking in...

    If/when I get married I will be looking at, as MLK said, the content of her character...not the color of her skin.

    If Heavenly Father blesses me with the love of a good LDS woman I will spend my time being thankful rather than worrying about skin color, lol

  9. Tithing...

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    Hello,

    I am scheduled for my baptism but I've been really concerned about my ability to tithe.

    My wife and I are flat broke. We both work, but we have 3 young kids (plus I pay child support on a fouth).

    We both work but by the time we pay day care, my child support, etc we have nothing left. We have no savings and no retirement whatsoever.

    We do not go out to eat, have never taken a vacation, we do not drive nice cars, buy nice clothes or have fancy things. We have almost nothing that can be cut of our budget (cable bill = $20/mo...we use cell phones only, no land phone line, etc).

    Anything you can say to help me make this leap of faith...let me hear it!

  12. I am ready...

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    I've decided to make the leap.

    The missionaries have been suggesting that the time is right to get baptized...and tonight I agreed!

    I have been meeting with missionaries since July.

    Since then, I have seen a lot of change in myself, my marriage and my family. I have been blessed.

    Thanks for reading!

  13. FAMILY PROBLEMS...any advice?

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    Thanks Georgia2...I agree with both postings! An immediate sense of peace has been restored to my home since she left.

    Ashley is angry right now, but underneath she knows she has been the cause of her own misery. She CHOSE not to do her college work and she CHOSE to waste her time partying. I simply responded by CHOSING to get some control back of the household that our little kids have to live in.

  14. FAMILY PROBLEMS...any advice?

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    I know you can love someone out of destructive behavior, with the help of Christ.

    applepansy

    This whole situation will give me a good chance to test this idea. :)

    Thanks everyone for all of your replies. All of you had something to say that I can learn something from.

    I think it is going to take a long time to get to a "happy ending" to this situation. Ashley has plenty of family members that care about her. Her whole family on her dad's side are LDS and have been trying to help. My wife and I are telling her the same things that she's hearing from the rest of her family; that she has a problem.

    Her attitude right now is that she is too young to take life seriously and she is convinced that she has "plenty of time" grow up at some future date.

    I had hoped that her "rock bottom" would be her car accident. Sadly, she still is not willing to recognize that she has a problem. :sadwalk:

  15. FAMILY PROBLEMS...any advice?

    in General Discussion

    Posted · Edited by theBUBBAMANcan

    I would welcome suggestions concerning my 19-yr old stepdaughter. I'll try to make a long story short.

    I am married to a wonderful woman and we have 3 little kids (6 yr old girl, 4 yr old boy and 10 month old boy) along with my step-daughter.

    My step-daughter's name is Ashley and she is having a lot of problems. The root cause is mostly due to her father being in prison at Leavenworth for making/selling meth. He has been a addict for a very long time and will now be in prison for many years before he gets a parole hearing. Ashley loves her dad and his problems are tearing her apart.

    She keeps moving in & out of our home. She bounces back and forth from place to place because she is unwilling to live by anyones rules. She has drug and alcohol problems, is an admitted alcoholic and can't stay out of trouble with the law.

    She spent a year in college in Utah and dropped out with a 1.81 GPA. She begged for a second chance at college, so we gave it to her. She gave me her solemn word that she would take college seriously and complete at least 12 credit hours and get at least a 3.0 GPA. Her intended major was nursing (RN). We enrolled her at a local tech college here in WI, but she refused to do any of the work, so the school "dropped" her out. A few days ago, she went back to her native IA to visit her grandma and drive with grandma to Leavenworth to visit her dad. The road trip also gave her an opportunity to party, which she did.

    Well...she ended up in a serious car accident. She was drunk & high. She will be okay but the car we gave her 3 mos ago is, of course, totalled. She will also have legal issues to deal with in IA along with some legal issues she already had here in WI. She is convinced that she will lose her license, and probably has not told us the whole story. She said she doesn't remember how the accident occurred.

    We live in a very small apartment and have very limited means. It was difficult for us to afford to get her started in college, which lasted for less than a month. She had been coming home drunk and stoned and sharing a bed with my 1st grade daughter...which has infuriated me!

    I told Ashley that she cannot move back in with us since she broke her word about college. In truth...part of my reason was that I can't stand her being drunk and stoned around the little ones and she can't respect my feelings on that matter. Her addictions have rendered her incapable of making decent moral decision...IMHO.

    Any suggestions? Do you feel that I did the right thing? Ashley accuses me of treating her different because she's not my "real" daughter...but I don't feel that this is fair. I feel that I have a right to hold her accountable for a decent standard of behavior while living in my home. She refuses to abide by any rules.

    She is a good person at heart...really. However, she has problems with alcohol and drugs that bring out the worst in her. She will not go to treatment and she does not admit that she is in over her head.

  17. How to pray?

    in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints

    Posted

    I saw the thread asking about how to address prayer, and I got to thinking...

    (excuse my ignorance please!)

    Is there a proper way to pray in terms of the "content" of the prayer?

    What I mean is...for example...is there a proper way to give a blessing before a meal? A proper content for family prayers, etc?

    For example, is it "proper" to thank Heavenly Father first before asking for his help with things?

    Is this addressed in scripture?

    I hope you understand what I'm trying to ask...lol.

    Thanks!