smileyjewel

Without trust you cannot have a relationship ... and with children involved, ending a relationship over a kiss would be a bad thing. I know that in my first marriage, when my husband started kissing around and I found out, I was turned into a crazed monster. I would check his pockets, call his work if he was 5 minutes late, would have friends "spy" on him. For me this worked because he was cheating but it turned me into someone I hope no one else ever turns into. It was crazy and I was crazy. If it was just a kiss STOP talk to your Bishop and follow his council. But don't tell her if you truly stopped. It will make her crazy! Don't hide it .. but dont go running to confess.

Thank you for the link for the talk from Elder Mickelsen ... I printed it out and have enjoyed it. I have talked to the Bishop but he hasn't had time to talk to the 2 parties yet ... although his grandaughter is sleeping over there tonite ... men are kinda funny ... no offense ... I know when I am in my Relief Society Presidency meetings we get down to business and discuss ANYTHING bothering our sisters, no holds bar but our Ward Presidency don't bring things up that are bothersome. My husband being in the presidency, I hound him prolly more than I should and ask if something is being done and he always says it wasn't the time to discuss it at that meeting or oh next time ... or it's complicated ... I wouldn't bash or bad mouth our Bishopric but I do get frusterated sometimes ... normal isn't it? I would go to the Stake President but they live in a Ward 2 hours from us and he is always travelling internationally for the church & his job. Just the wrong time to have a problem I guess *lol* BUT I have started on the Bishop and pushing for things like this boys birthday interview (which is this month) and what a great suggestion! SO thank you & thank you for your support!!

Thank you for your responses! When I read them I called up the Bishop and suggested he get ontop this problem and also suggested what I think he should do. He said he didn't realize the problem had escalated to this point. So hopefully something will be done and something will work. I will keep you posted! Thank you all again for the great support and advice. I really appreciate it!

I have been searching for some advice on a problem I am going through with my 15 yr old daughter. Our family belongs to a small ward where my father is Bishop, my husband is 2nd councelor ... we had this family move in a few years back and their eldest son didn't get along with anyone and contemplated not coming to church for lack of friends. My daughter befriended him and made him feel welcome into the ward. They hung around each other at school and became quite good friends. He is a year older than my daughter and when it came time to date, he kept asking her out, knowing that she isn't allowed dating till she is 16. Well she musta told him quite forcefully one day and hurt his pride because for the last year he has been a real jerk to her. He bullies her to the extent that we changed schools but we can't change wards because we only have one in our little town. He has made church life impossible. My daughter cries every Sunday because of his cruelty and has just quit going to Seminary, because I (stupid me) suggested that if she isn't getting good feelings she shouldn't have to go. Now I am kicking myself because I was hoping it would blow over once he realized what a jerk he is but now she isn't going to Semiary and what if she applies this to church activities and stops going? I have talked to his mother but we both get defensive and it doesn't help. My husband being in the bishopric knows about what is going on but no one knows what to do because they are all my family and don't want it looking like they are picking on HIM?!? What should I do? She is pulling out of everything and why should she when it is HIS problem? HELP!!!