marky

Thanks a lot to everyone for all your input :) As I said, I would never tell a girl that I got revelation that I should date her, neither would I go all bezerk over her. I was mainly just wondering weather I should just forget about her, or keep in touch and hope that she would change her mind. I think I´ll keep my eyes open for other girls, but keep in touch with her just in case.

No I don´t, I actually really appreciate that you take time to write. I would say that there´s a lot of truth in what you say. The reason I first prayed about getting attracted to a girl that might get attracted to me too, was just that. That I was worried about if my standards were too high. Believe, I´ve tried.

I know what you´re saying mate. And I´ve tried not to be that. And I don´t think I have. I might come off as needy in what I just wrote, but she won´t be reading it will she. I admit I have a serious case of One-itis. Problem is, that there isn´t many girls to date where I live, so it´s kind of hard to see it like "plenty more fish in the sea.."

Hi everyone! I need advice on something I´ve been thinking about a lot lately. I´m a 25 year old single guy and I live in a place where there´s not very many LDS girls, and especially not many that I´d find interesting. However, as all of you know, it´s pretty much a duty of a 25 year old single guy to get married, and it´s not that I wouldn´t want to. And I´m not some weird guy that most girls wouldn´t find fun or attractive. Some do and some don´t, it just hasn´t clicked with anyone yet. So, I once asked God if I could actually fall for a girl that might also be interested in me. In the next couple of weeks or so, I found myself getting very attracted to this sister missionary (!!) that had been serving in my area for about a year. We had always got along pretty well and I thought she was cute and all, but I hadn´t thought of her in that sense before, I mean c´mon, she was a missionary afterall. I saw her all the time in the YSA activities, because she was serving with the young adults, and I was also helping them teach this one guy. I really tried to behave myself and not mess with her mission in any way. Me and my roommates invited them over for DA´s a couple of times but that´s all. She was transferred the next change, and three months after that she left for home. Now, I´ve been praying a lot about this along the way, weather it was ok for me to feel that way, and if it was worth it to keep my hopes up. She lives in America and I live in Europe, so the distance is pretty big. I have felt the spirit confirm that the gospel is true before, but I can´t remember that I´ve ever before received real personal revelation about anything. This time however I felt I recieved an answer a few times, not just once. At least to me it felt pretty clear that I should go on with it. First I was worried that it was just my own mind that was doing the trick, so I also prayed about that. Of course I haven´t mentioned anything about this to her, I´m not a total idiot :) We kept in touch after she got home, and I eventually decided to visit the place where she lives, with a cunning excuse that I want to check out the uni there if I wanna go continue my studies there later. I also know some other people there, so I had a place to stay and stuff to do. Well, we went out and hung out together, and had a good time, but it didn´t seem to go anywhere. She then said she´s not interested in a relationship, but wants to remain friends. She might be coming to visit her old mission next summer, but I don´t know if she really will. Now, I´m very confused about all this. Normally if a girl would say she´s not interested in a relationship, I would just try and forget about her and then move on. But this time I´m not so sure. Should I just stay friends with her and hope for the best? That she would come visit her old mission field, and somehow her mind would change? Like I said there´s not many girls where I live and she´s quite honestly the most amazing girl I´ve ever met. I haven´t told her that, but she is in many ways. I´ve never felt this way about anyone. I´ve studied alot about understanding the spirit and understanding it´s answers etc. etc. and I´ve done everything as right as I know how to, so I doubt that I´m completely wrong with thinking I recieved guidance. But what am I supposed to think? And what should I do? Hah! Turned out pretty long, props to you for reading it through!