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You sound like you train in exactly the group we are going to. We are going to a STAR recovery group in Bountiful. Is that what you do?

Incidentally, one of the men who wrote this book is actually leading the group that we are going to every Thursday. It's a pricey group, but we were recommended to it very highly. I hope it gets better.

I knew he had the addiction in his YOUTH and he said he'd repented of it. I truly thought when I married him that he had been "clean" for several years now. I agree with Islander. I wasn't about to judge a man for a past that MANY young men have. But I did NOT sign up for it when I married him. But by saying I refuse to be married to a porn addicted husband I do not mean I intend on leaving him. I will stay by him as long as he continues to work on it... but if it does not improve with time, I can't live this life. I feel very badly for him that he was exposed and addicted to it at such a young age. It doesn't seem fair. But it is what it is and maybe I can help him. But, truly, HE HAS TO WORK! Thank you for the stories of those who had been through therapy with success in this issue. I really wanted to know if it's really beatable. The group we go to has a spouse support group, but so far it's mostly just been information about addiction and less "support" on what to do next. I need action items. I will get these books if it helps me to know how to help him and also to deal with it myself. In the meantime, he'll have to build up the trust again. I do love him very much and I admire him for telling me. We all have weaknesses, but this one seems particularly painful. Almost like he's had an affair.

I am very scared right now. My husband and I were married in the Salt Lake temple just five months ago. About two months ago I came home early and caught my husband looking at Internet pornography. He felt terrible and promised not to do it again. I knew he'd had a problem with it in his youth, but he told me this problem was as recent as five months before we married. know the nature of addiction and I know that relapsing was inevitable, so we started going to a sex addiction group therapy course taught by an old mission president that I trust very much. Anyway, last night he confessed to me that he'd looked again at the pornography several more times since the first time I caught him. He volunteered the information which is a big step forward, but my reaction was still to break down and cry. I am 7 weeks pregnant with our first child and I feel so trapped right now. I love him with all my heart, but I refuse to be in a marriage with a porn-addicted husband the rest of my life. I feel terrible for wishing I wasn't pregnant right now, but I do. It would have been better for us to fix this problem first before starting a family. I don't know how to cope with this right now. I put a password on the computer today, so I hope that helps take the temptation away for awhile. But I don't know how to trust him again. I feel cheated on. I know his addiction is not about me, but it doesn't take the heartbreak away. I want to have a family where the Spirit can dwell and he can lead us as a righteous priesthood holder, but those dreams have been crushed right now. Is there ANYONE out there with some success story???? Has anyone beat this problem????