bonanzafan

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  1. Sunday in my YSA ward in--you guessed it--Provo, we had an "experts" panel on dating. It was a real turn off seeing the flippancy of one woman, while her husband stoically took it. I felt so bad for him having to hear her portray their experience from her still arrogant perspective. It's a common thing I've seen often in so many families. Men are now property of women. Just the other day at Target in Orem, a young couple was in line behind me and the tone of the wife's voice toward her husband made me sick. You would have thought he was about to rob a bank the way she jumped all over him for putting the groceries on the conveyor belt in poor fashion, according to her. He quietly, and in the manner to be imagined a slave to portray, apologized to her and did as he was told. Oh how the pendulum swings and hits the more docile party. Isn't it too bad that mildness and kindness and sincerity really aren't celebrated in common forethought the way we praise ourselves for doing so? That shallow wall of hers, that women are entitled to the perfect man, is every reason you and your daughters don't get asked out. It's terrifying and humiliating to have to play that game. Do you wonder why you're all getting divorced ten years into marriage? Your husband's porn problem is just a smokescreen symptom....When did you turn off the bridezilla act and leave it off? My experience: grew up with an abusive father and a mother who resented him for that and projected it onto her sons. Every girl I've dated since my mission has had cases of sexual abuse from a brother in her childhood. More than 75% of them have been physically abusive toward me. The last one shared me with a married man she had been sexually involved with but was "only good friends with" while she and I dated. I am feeling so defeated (and have been for the last 15 years) in trying to keep listening and trying to find a girl who respects people instead of trying to take from them. Women, you need to be sensitive to who's listening instead of who won't. And the whole Twilight craze is nothing different than celebrated emotional pornography warned of by PROPHETS.
  2. bonanzafan

    Do women watch porn

    there's a lot of badgering toward men for watching it. do women watch it? obviously, i'm not asking this question for men to answer. i just feel like men are picked on and women aren't because they refuse to face public humiliation.
  3. being poor and in school, my parents have helped me quite a bit financially over the past six months. this is an amazing thing for them to do. my thoughts have not resolved how to handle tithing on this. they have paid bills and fixed my car and given me petty cash for my expenses as well. can you point me to articles and talks that discuss this?
  4. I've met a girl who has no serious transgressions, as I do. How should I approach her regarding my mistakes against the law of chastity? I'm so embarrassed even though I have resolved things with the appropriate prescribed order of repentance. thanks.
  5. this is ridiculous. i wish i didn't ask. some of you have horrible attitudes and need to go to church, it seems.
  6. this is not "all things". this is one thing, and the church has given counsel on it. i'm not trying to find your opinion, but the church's position on it.
  7. with all due respect, if you are not going to answer the question, would you please refrain from commenting, unless you have a specific url to direct me to. thanks.
  8. i know the church, per pres kimball, sent something out in the 80's that renounced the practice of oral sex. what are the "okay's" and "not okay's" for sex between husband and wife?
  9. thank you guys. thank you for your advice and warmth. i really appreciate it.
  10. i had a girlfriend who was having sex with me. she started seeing this other guy, her home teacher, during times while i was busy with work and school...while she and i were doing all these things. i thought we were a couple. now they are together. while he was gone for three weeks she and i still saw each other. should i tell him? i hurt so bad. i want girls like her to not be doing this to guys. her last relationship, previous to me, was with a married member of the church who she worked with; and this relationship did not completely end until she and i had been dating for three months. also, this new boyfriend has his mission call and is scheduled to leave in three months.
  11. bonanzafan

    Lingerie?

    the three s's of appropriate times to remove garments: sex swimming sports talk to your bishop if you have questions on specifics for this
  12. bonanzafan

    ladies and swimsuit modesty

    how much cleavage is appropriate? some? none? i'm asking this sincerely. i have a friend (a girl) who is struggling finding a modest swimsuit. she says "modest swimsuits are only made for skinny girls with no breasts, so i will wear what i want. if i had to follow the standards to the 't' i would be dressed like a nun and never be able to swim."
  13. bonanzafan

    Should I pay tithing on this?

    I'm in college. My parents gave me money to help pay my bills. Should I pay tithing on this?
  14. I am struggling to keep the law of chastity with a girl I've been dating for a few months. I have met with priesthood leaders and have even had a bishop's court. I don't know how to change what's going on. I'm realizing that I have submitted my will to Satan and cannot break myself free of this. I'm a returned missionary. I grew up in a family of all strong members of the church. I'm about to lose even more privileges. I feel like my weakness is that I'm so lonely inside and so is she. I don't feel like we are right for each other, emotionally and personality-wise. We're just two lonely people doing dumb things. Can you help me with your opinions, please? Please. I'm just so sorry to be where I am.
  15. i've been dating a girl for a few weeks now. she is in my ward. she is "legal" in her level of standards, but not tight about keeping them strong. her modesty is borderline and her conversation is sometimes questionable...among other things that seem to push the envelope. she often says "that's just how i am," and fights me to the end when i say some of these things make me uncomfortable about her behavior. she doesn't listen when i tell her how i feel, or rather, she hears and agrees, but then pays no head after the conversation. i haven't felt attracted to a girl in a while, but now this... any advice? thanks.